Re: Wife has to ‘feel’ for the Bull

As previously stated, this aspect of the cuckold marriage is not without risk and the bond between you and your wife must be strong. I do also believe, that the old saying, “From the greatest risk comes the greatest reward” applies pretty well not only to this specific situation, but to the general fulfillment of the cuckold’s basic needs and desires. In a previous post in the “Getting started” forum, under the thread “Finding the right bulls or men to share her with”, JandGinSD shared some valuable insight pertaining to the romantic bonding that can occur between a wife and her bull;

“It can be a deep relationship, as it requires friendship, lust, and trust. Also don’t discount the emotional component. Very few women sexually bond well without love. If she takes a lover for a period of time (not long at all), she will genuinely fall in love at some level with him. Might not displace your relationship or grow to the same intensity of love as you two share, but you need to believe a romantic bond will form between them and the sexual passion will be met with attendant deep love if he is worthwhile for her. That polyamory is perfectly normal and is true human nature. “

For the first eight years of our marriage I encouraged my spouse to engage in “hot wife” activity. She had my permission and encouragement to take advantage of any sexual situation that might come up. She had numerous trysts with strangers, and acquaintances, and it was obvious that our libidos, sex life, and even our relationship benefited from these occasional encounters. Up to this point, almost all her extramarital encounters were a one-time occurrence. There was a guy that did have her twice, and one other that had the pleasure of leaving his mess between her legs on three different occasions. This was due mostly to opportunity. Then one evening, my wife mentioned that her boss was flirting with her. I encouraged her to flirt back, and it eventually developed into an ongoing affair where the sexual encounters were numerous and frequent. I was in Cuck heaven, in a state of constant lust, that was matched by my wife’s!     One evening, about a month into the relationship, my wife confessed that she was starting to develop “feelings” for her boss. She went on to explain that her love for me hadn’t diminished at all, and tried to reassure me that our marriage was still as strong as ever. This was a time of roller coaster emotions for me. When I was horny, the romantic bond between my wife and her boss contributed greatly to the intenseness of my arousal. This was so much more consuming and exciting than the one time trysts she shared with other men earlier in our marriage. Just the fact that she had given herself so completely to another man brought the cuckold experience to a higher level, like a junkie getting a double dose of his favorite drug. I remember occasionally feeling somewhat ashamed at the extent of the all-consuming lust I sometimes felt, wondering if it would be at the expense of my marriage yet still encouraging and nurturing their romantic bond….. (My thoughts and experiences of this encounter can be found in detail in the thread “Romantic Bonding” )            I wish back when I heard my wife’s confession, I was familiar with that quote from JandGinSD. I might have thought about it a little bit, and realized that this was not something exclusive to my relationship, but a normal progression following course of human nature. I now understand that the sexual passion and constant state of arousal and fulfillment that my young wife experienced with her Bull wasn’t in addition to her romantic bond she had with him, it was because of the romantic bond they had together. (I must also confess that my fulfillment in the cuckold role was never more complete in spite of the angst.)     I now know that a woman can really have romantic feelings for more than one man. I also understand that any time romantic feelings are involved in a relationship outside marriage it also carries a risk, although aren’t all elements of this lifestyle risky without a strong marital bond?