Re: wife likes the fantasy, but nothing more, how to proceed

If I understand your answer correct my interpretation is that I have to read more between the lines. The challenge is that my wife is very clear in her communication, she has an almost manly way of looking at things. If I have done a lousy yob in doing something, she will say that I did a lousy yob. She is not very political in her way of communicating.

Still your reaction made me think a lot. What I think is that the arguments she gives are indeed the real arguments for her also. So maybe my wife and I need to find her true reasons for giving these arguments… I will try some different approaches to see if what the “between the lines” are that she might not even know herself.