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    • LuvsItWet
        November 15, 2013 at 6:54 pm
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        You have stumbled over the dilemma that haunts most of us that try to live two lives. Superman and Batman had the same problem but managed and you can do it too. Just learn to compartmentalize the separate personae. Shifting back and forth is the trick. What I did was mentally find my phone booth or elevator to the Bat Cave. My wife had a bit more trouble with it than I did but she managed. The only time we had a serious problem was when we tried to combine the two lives socially, i.e., barbecues with people from both lives invited or holiday celebrations mixing the two lives. Rare but it did happen. How you separate your secret life from your everyday vanilla life can be an exciting part of the lifestyle. Walking on that edge will keep you awake at night but revel in it. It’s the spice of life.

      • CuriousCpl
          November 16, 2013 at 7:37 pm
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          #11147

          hi, afraid I can’t agree with alot of what luvsitwet wrote. You can’t compare real life important situations, relationships and your sexual life preferances to a couple of ficticous super heros. Since you obviously want to keep your private sexual life seperate from your other life, it is important how you manage it, especially with chidren involved. It is also impotant to keep your business life, your normal life, seperate from your sexual lifestyle, it could be a nightmare if your unconventional sexual lifestyle became common knowledge . It coud ruin your life. Luvsitwet was talking about combining his/her cuck world friends with his/her straight life friends at social events. That, in my opinion is reckless and if alcohol is involved, has the potental of wrecking lives. I may be facing these same problems soon myself. I can’t tell you how to lead your life, as for me, I will not allow my and my wifes and whoever else may become involved in our private sexual life to cause problems in our regular, married with chldren and resposibilities life. My wife and I have already made a commitment to not let what we do ourselves and any men she may choose to have a relationship with effect our marriage and that world we want our children, friends and business associates to see. I sure wish you well in trying to juggle both worlds, keep us updated !

        • Buttercup118
            November 16, 2013 at 8:58 pm
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            #11148

            Well family and careers come first, and our relationship is not solely based on playtime, we have a very strong, loving, friendship based relationship and our communications with play are limited to little comments here and there to one another, not out loud for others to hear. My confusion is more about where I draw the line with him. He seems to thrive off of my humiliating him and reminding him that I am wanted by several other men. He loves the competitive aspect and loves to be ordered/smacked around and put in his place by me… but Im not sure how much of that to carry out into normal life. I know he prefers that I call the shots, even with something as simple as where we go to dinner… he can’t make decisions for himself. I tell him what I want and I get it, usually. If not, that comes out in play time. ;) I am naturally bossy, in my career I have to be, I command respect from the hardest people to gain respect from… children… and I get it whole heartedly because I am a firm but very loving person. I would love to hear from some of your hot wives and hear how much of their real personalities come out in play, how much is over acted in play, or under acted in real life. Besides the bulls I have considered to join us and my cuck no one knows about our involvement in the lifestyle, although I do wear my key and an anklet that is very cute and looks to be for stylistic purposes. I wear a very innocent mask when I am my normal self… I just want to make sure that my cuck doesn’t forget in our every day life that he is my cuck and even though I am his sweet loving girlfriend that I am also his Mistress.

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