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    • NewlyCuckolded
        March 13, 2015 at 8:17 am
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        #9795

        Hello Everybody,

        I am in a state of deep frustration as I’m writing this and I hope someone can help me see the situation more clearly. My wife and I have been married for about three years and she recently started an affair with a single man. When she told me I didn’t blame her for it, I have not been treating her well and I even told her I wasn’t sure I wanted to stay married. I was upset of course but the new situation was enlightening for me, I realized how much I missed her and how badly I wanted to be a cuckold. I was worried she had completely lost feelings for me but she reassured me saying that she still wants to be around me and a half-open marriage would be ideal for her.

        However, I have a few issues with her new relationship. One of them is that her boyfriend has no idea that I know. Also, she said she absolutely doesn’t want me to meet him because it would be embarrassing for her; I didn’t even mention letting me watch her have sex with him because of course I knew the answer. In addition to that, she feels embarrassed telling me things about her new sexual relationship and I always have to start the conversation, which turns out to be very frustrating because she gives some vague answers and she doesn’t seem to be enjoying that moment at all. In addition to this, now she no longer feels like having sex with me and I believe the reason is that she’s so into her new sexual relationship that she finds it dull doing it with me; her boyfriend is dominant and very fit, which are things she loves in a man.

        Just to clear things up, she’s not going to leave me for her boyfriend because he clearly just wants sex and he doesn’t want a relationship. Essentially I would say she’s not familiar with the “cuckolding lifestyle” and she’s seeing this as a mere non-monogamous relationship (for her). I know that there is no right or wrong in these types of things but what do you think about her behavior? What am I supposed to do? I tried talking to her about it but I think I should stop trying, I cannot change her mind.

      • StokieUKCpl
          March 13, 2015 at 9:18 am
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          #11866

          Cuckolding has to be a two way relationship..or three including the other male if he wants. What you describe is your wife having an affair and you simply accepting it. What are you taking from it? If you are happy to let her carry on then fair enough. But it seems to me you are not benefitting in any way at all.

          Your wife is missing a big opportunity and is in danger of losing her husband. She doesn’t have sex with you. She doesn’t tell you about her exploits. She wont even talk about it. You have only been married three years and its fell apart already?

           

          If she’s not prepared to include you my friend then its not going to work. Game over.

        • NewlyCuckolded
            March 13, 2015 at 10:14 am
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            #11867

            Thank you for your comment, what you say is similar to what I think. It’s hard for me to see a future if she doesn’t include me. What I hope is that this is a normal phase for someone who initially sets foot in this type of relationship and maybe things will naturally progress. After all she hadn’t even cheated before and hated the idea of doing it.

          • carolinacuckandwife
              March 16, 2015 at 3:30 am
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              #11870

              all is not lost.

              i agree with Stokie’s comments on your situation and your initiation into this lifestyle is not “normal” by any means. BUT there still could be light at the end of the tunnel. my wife and i have been in this lifestyle for 15+ years and we’ve been through several short periods of time where i was not involved in her relationship in any meaningful way. this was usually a case of her BF either just not being into the cuckold / Hotwife scene or because i wasn’t included in the very beginning of her dating someone and it became hard for her to broach the subject at a later time. 

              this lifestyle is definately enhanced when all three parties are involved in some manner. the cuck is not always present but that’s ok and sometimes that good ole “cuckold angst” is sufficient while awaiting your Hotwife’s return. but for your wife to not even share details or her thoughts on the subject lead me to believe that you may be the only one in the relationship seeking a cuckold lifestyle. this may change for you, but it’s been my experience that it will not change until she finds a new BF and that the 3 of you go into the arrangement honestly. i know it will sound counter-intuitive to your wife – being open and honest while beginning a sexual relationship but it will make a world of difference, at least in our case it does. good luck!!

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