Marriage Evolved discussion Lifestyle Discussions True Experiences Help! She’s leaving me

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    • Linda & david
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        Last night as we were shouting down for the night and Linda had showered and changed into her nighty, she told me that she would be going to Richard’s directly from today. Nothing new. She often did this on weekends. But, I could tell there was something more.
        We were in bed for a few minutes, I knew there was more, so I layed there facing her. Her back was to me.
        Then the bomb dropped. “David. When I get back Sunday night, it will be for my things. Richard and I decided it’s best that I move in with him permanently.”
        As you could guess, my heart sunk. I had a million questions. But, I patiently listened. She turned to face me.
        She loved Richard. She and I have been pretty much living as roommates. We hadn’t had penetrative sex for over a year, at least. I was rarely allowed to see her nude. On the occasion that I was allowed to perform oral on her, it was to clean her after sex with Richard. Always dressed from the waist up.
        Richard is well off financially. As if reading my mind, she said she didn’t need or want a divorce. I could keep the house, everything in it. Including the vehicles. Richard was buying her a vehicle. In his name though.
        Richard and his wife don’t have a sex life. Something medical on her part. He told me this when Linda started seeing him seriously. She was aware and supportive of Linda moving in.
        I’m not sure what the bedroom situation will be. Linda told me that wasn’t necessary for me to involve myself in.
        When I got home from work today, most of clothes,personal items and suitcases were gone.
        The cars were in the garage. I’m assuming he picked her up.
        On the kitchen table was a short note that simply said,

        “I know I’ve hurt you. For that, I’m sorry. I do love you but not in the ways I need to love a man fully.
        I’ll get the rest of my things Monday. Please don’t call. Don’t tell the kids yet.
        We’ll talk soon.
        – Linda”

      • RaniGrrl
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          I’m afraid this is what is happening to us… It’s not what I want or wanted, but I really don’t see him sexually anymore and haven’t for years…

          • Cathy & Jerry
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              RaniGrrl. As we mentioned to David, sometimes this lifestyle can go a direction we didn’t want, hopefully you can weather out the storm and things will work out for the good. This lifestyle can be very rewarding for everyone involved when everyone is onboard with everything that is happening. I don’t think I could be happy if I didn’t have Jerry and my lover in my life. Even though Jerry and I no longer have sex, we still love each other very much. We hope things work out good for you real soon.

              Cathy

          • Cathy & Jerry
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              We’re very sorry that this has happened to you, maybe in the near future she’ll feel that she’s made a mistake and want to come back to you, don’t close the door to her quite yet. Sometimes cuckolding can lead to this unfortunately, but thankfully, not often, at least as far as we’ve seen over our 19 years in the lifestyle. Please keep us informed and good luck.

            • thumbman
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                I’d put that note in a safe deposit box. I’d also document everything going forward in a private place online so as not to be deleted by anyone.
                She made a life changing decision so who knows what the 3 of them will come up with next. Contact a divorce lawyer as well for advice in the event she drops something else like “we think the kids should live with us”. She abandoned the marriage and kids by walking out with zero notice.
                Things may turn around when she realizes the grass isn’t greener like when her and the real wife start having issues.
                Just in case, I’d cover mine and the kids ass’s.
                JUST IN CASE!

              • Linda & david
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                  The only brightside to this is, our kids are grown and on their own. I’ll give her until the weekend to figure what she wants to explain to them.
                  My oldest has met Richard and thinks he’s a work friend of Linda’s. They don’t work together though.
                  The hardest part is being alone in the house with my imagination imagining what she’s doing with them.

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