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spooky_xxx
This site is amazing. I’m enjoying it so much!
My wife and I are happily married for nearly 12 and a half years now (next weekend!) and while having had our ups and downs, our sex life usually was pretty satisfying. My sex drive usuallyis stronger than hers, but we manage to compromise 🙂Â
While I’m not entirely sure that I’m a real potential cuckold, I truly enjoy this site, and i’m certainly get aroused by a lot of aspects of cuckolding…About a year ago we got into contact with people living an other lifestyles than ours, as we got (unknowingly) invited to a swingers-club. While we weren’t really interested in actively participating, we actually accepted an invitation for a second visit, and in the car we started discussing permitted do’s and don’ts, just in case… It led to me telling about a long standing fantasy of mine: having a threesome – with her and another man (as opposed to what she first expected, with another woman). I asked if she could imagine being loved and caressed by two men at the same moment, and she said she certainly could, but at the same time she expressed her concern that she might get so much drawn into such an experience, she might not give me the attention I deserved.
Both being in the right mood to explore this fantasy, we discussed and considered several potential candidates, until someone came up we both could related to eventually. At the club we decided that we would be open for anything, but that we would check each others consent before doing anything  we would not had discussed. Beside some semi-nude dancing nothing really happened that night though, but I seemed to have at least unlocked a door with my confessed fantasy…
I brought the subject up a few times now, mostly jokingly, sometimes more seriously, and her reactions seem to vary as well. When I joke about ‘our’ threesome she usually jokes along, but when I bring the supposed candidate up during sex, she appears more hesitate about it. One time we talked about it pretty seriously though, and she admitted that up to a certain point she certainly was interested in how it would feel to be with two men at once, and more specifically how it would feel to be double penetrated.Â
At the other hand, she could not imagine herself feeling comfortable having sex with another guy out of the blue, while I was there watching. She suggested that they better might start out on their own, getting to know each other, and I could then join in on them ten or fifteen minutes later on. That would be my sore spot: I wouldn’t be able to stand missing out on it even for a few minutes… Â I wouldn’t have to join in every time or all the time, but at least would like to be there and watch.
Knowing herself, she was also a bit concerned of falling in love or getting dependent of it. While we do have a strong relation and our marriage is lovingly and faithfully, I know my wife well enough to acknowledge  the fact that sometimes she can get overly enthusiastic…We also both agreed, while our potential candidate was an interesting ánd realistic choice, that -if- we would ever do a threesome, it would be wiser to ‘use’ an anonymous partner. It would exclude the risk of falling in love, and less a concern with privacy. She keeps reminding me that it’s all a fantasy though, that she doesn’t want to sleep with other men, but that she finds it ok to joke and talk about a threesome every now and then, just to pleasure me. Now, I’m not sure anymore what to do at this point. Should I let it all be just a fantasy, or should I try to persuade her?Â
I also haven’t confessed her all of my fantasies yet… Several scenarios based on sharing her with multiple men keep going though my mind, ranging from letting her have unprotected intercourse, sharing her while being being pregnant later on, having foursomes, inviting a black guy… They are all an instant turn on!Â
I’m a bit worried for her reactions if I would share to these though… -
Luvr
spooky – you've made good progress and have overcome the largest obstacle: simply discussing the topic(s).
I would encourage you not to take a false sense of security by her enjoying only an 'anonymous' partner to prevent emotional attachment. You two, as a couple, share dozens of bonds together, including an interest in exploring alternative to standard marriage sexuality. Brining another male into your marriage, into your bed, will serve as yet another bond and even if your wife should develop a bond, emotionally, with her lover, that bond can't threaten your marriage unless you two never really had a bond. When the wife creates a bond with her lover, beyond a physical one, the intensity is increased quite substantially for everyone. A wife who can't appreciate her cuckold's trust and faith in her while having such a bond with a lover is stupid, crazy or both and doesn't deserve you if she can't appreciate the gift of love you offer her in such an adventure. Based on your post and your stated marriage qualities, I think you're both well-suited to this and will do just fine as long as you share fully in it and aren't afraid to cut ties with a guy and move on.
Yes, this can be a lifestyle change you don't look back from. In other words, having only one male lover may never be an option for her after this, but who he is and the practical exercise of this as a lifestyle can vary at any time you two choose to do so. Some couples will have a small stable of guys she sees very sporadically while others will date only one boyfriend either very regularly or very infrequently. Most will take breaks at times and not see anyone else, but few go back to how it was.
Stop by the chat sometime – let's talk about it!
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spooky_xxx
Thanks for your reply.
I’ll indeed try and join chat anytime soon. Too bad it doesn’t work on the iPad, that would be a lot more convenient.
Dave.
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