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nigelcuck
Hi all
Some know me I havnt posted in a while.
My story briefly my wife had an affair I sexualised the pain and got interested in cuckolding
I am not a moralist nor do I believe in any religon, however I now believe there may be dangers associtated with cuckolding
In normal sexual relations, lets say vanilla sex occurs now and then is generally satisfactory and may not last long.There is a build up then relaese. The build up period is quite short than realease. The brain can handle that quite easily and we are built to cope.
I found my interest in cuckolding led to me spending a lot of time in a sexually emotional state. It was not unpleasant in fact i lived in an erotic wife centred haze. I thought I was happy.
The brain however is not built to cope with long term permanent excitement. My muscles were tense and this led to minor ailments I also noticed minor skin dryness. Put simply the joyous excitiemnt of cuckolding could not be sustained I was not built for it.
I decided to cut it all out and return to normal. My health improved as did my psychological well being I could concentrate better.
I was in fact experiencing mild addictive tension. My brain had become accustomed to high levels of excitment producing dopamine. However this cnnot be sustained long term. So cuckolds beware I say. My opinion is if you must do this switich it off now and then for months if possible you will feel better. Continue and you will be addicted
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Luvr
@nigelcuck I’m glad you’re feeling better. Yes, I would agree that this can be a form of addiction like anything that comes between the person and living a productive, healthy life would be. I think the idea of ‘sexual addiction’ is misleading since it infers we have a choice about sexuality when it’s part of our being. Blaming behavior on ‘sex addiction’ seems like blaming life on a ‘breathing addiction’.
As someone trained (at a low level) of recognizing and taking first steps toward helping those with (substance) addiction issues I can say there are many ‘substances’ which can become addictive and dopamine is certainly one of them. This is what drives many of us in the behaviors and hobbies we pursue since dopamine is pleasure. That being said, ‘addiction’ of a substance or fetish isn’t a problem until it begins to interfere with being able to function in a healthy/productive manner. Many couples are quite involved in this as a lifestyle and would seem ‘addicted’ based on some aspects of their behavior within the lifestyle yet manage to function well or even better overall. This is because they process/share/release in a healthy manner – something that was perhaps missing from your experience for some reason.
I think you could still enjoy being a cuckold if circumstances were different for you.
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Coffee
Good reads, even though it’s an old post.
I have gone through bouts of over self stimulation due to cuckolding. To the point I regretted spending hours doing that, instead of something productive. Partly why I’m open to experimenting with chastity. As it is both sexy, and helps keep your eye on the ball. Have a device, just havnt used it in a more productive and fun way yet.
I feel like I have a decent grasp of these problems now though. Being able to put the brakes on when you are indulging too much in anything is important.
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