My wife doesn’t want to try cuckolding MMF scenario- and I can see why. Any advice?

I think the most note-worthy phrase in there is “She feels that she is only doing it because i want it, and that while it may be enjoyable at the time, she will resent me for making her do it sooner or later.” While this is the case – while she doesn’t appreciate for herself the wonder, the pleasure and the bonding experience such an event can be, you would be well-advised to not pursue this.

One path to take with her is to discuss this idea of her forming an emotional bond with a guy she has sex with. She’s right, that will happen, but she’s wrong in assuming that’s somehow inherently a problem. Women are perfectly capable of caring about more than one male at a time and even loving them while loving them differently, by my fear is this isn’t really her issue. I suspect she may be using it as leverage to ‘ward you off’ of the idea feeling if she emphasizes the emotional risks, you’ll back off. The question is: why does she really want you to back off?

Does she assume that if you let her have another male you’ll expect to be permitted to have another female? Are there other reasons she’s reluctant? Until you know the true reasons she’s opposed, you won’t be able to help her understand why those reasons aren’t really a problem.

You need to be careful about the alcohol driving things.  That can be fun in moderation, but since you are in a marriage try some of these things sober and see if they lead anywhere.  When very sexually aroused, they very well might.

While there are some women who can detach and have NSA sex with strangers and enjoy it, most really need to develop some emotional connection for it to work in a way where it is worthwhile to them.  In that, polyamory is a difficult bridge to cross because of our cultural context.  For her to have fulfilling sex, the guy needs to e more than a dildo.  You two are accepting health and relationship risks, so it needs to be worth it.  To her, fairly likely, being worth it would mean it has to go far beyond the dildo play.

The other thing is that she probably is afraid that you will be hurt in the end.  Women are used to men being protective and jealous, even though they are not completely correlated things.  It seems perverse to many of them, at least initially, that their husbands would not just welcome but insist that they have sex with other men.  Even those men with such desires (all can put your hands down) can’t often rationalize it all.  And this is all with good reason.  There is a strong chance you will feel hurt, rejected, and remorseful, at least at first.  When you fantasize over this for a long period of time, you are in control.  It changes completely int he reality of it all.  You are the only one without control.  Your wife has the control of approving this or that.  The bull has control usually in the natural sexual power imbalance.  Some cuckolds can’t get it up or even feel nauseous when it finally happens.  That doesn’t mean they do not come around, but that it is an unexpected emotional shock when the reality sinks in.

A good exercise, that I have brought up elsewhere, is for the two of you to play a fantasy game when you are out and about in public.  Imagine male strangers with whom you meet under normal circumstances (the cashier, the contractor, etc) as lovers while you are with them.  It is funny how different it is when the guy is real, with a normal array of quirks and imperfections.  Your wife is more accustomed to that, as she did that and may even still do that as a sexual human being.  They aren’t all going to have sexy voices and will say things and call your wife things that might set you back as awkward.  Lots of single men have a lot of baggage too that is not immediately apparent, but shapes how they act and how they fuck.  Not trying to make it all sound unpleasant, but there is the reality that you just cannot get from videos and stories.  It is very different when it is personal and can become a wedge in your relationship.  Keep things open for consideration (and some might be things for you to consider that she wants) and go when and where it is mutually comfortable and fun.  And remember that if one or both of you end up not caring for it, don’t let it destroy what you have.  Keep it in context as exploration rather than something from which you cannot go back.

My advice is don’t do it. Never coerce your wife into doing something she does not want to do. It rarely ends well despite the fictional posts to the contrary. Even if both of you want to do it, there is a good chance that it may not end well. My wife did it to please me and hated it and to this day regrets doing it. I regret pushing her into it.  Someone else’s wife did it because she wanted to and she fell in love with me and was seeing me for 25 years. What her cuck does not know is that she has offered to leave him for me if I wanted that. I do not break up marriages but others may be more possessive than me.

“What her cuck does not know is that she has offered to leave him for me if I wanted that. I do not break up marriages but others may be more possessive than me.”

I must postulate that you have already broken up the marriage.  If she is willing to,leave him for you… Doesn’t sound like the marriage bonds have been strengthened.  Play with fire and you may get burned. 

Alcohol and big decisions like these do not mix well at all.  That does not at all mean that the hot wife thing isn’t for her. Alcohol tends to relax inhibitions which might be repressed reasonably or unreasonably.  Rather than fish to find out which that is, work more on the trust and communications.  If it is right for BOTH OF YOU, that will become evident in its appropriate time and can then work without serious consequences.  Your wife clearly had the desire to play with others, but the lone ownership of the situation scares her.  She doesn’t want to cross the Rubicon, at last not as long as she feels she is doing so independently.

All people are different. We are together 20+y and we are the best friends first and great lovers to each other ofcourse.

When it becomes clear that we need for spicing up our sexlife somebodys help, we tried it. Ofcourse it took time to get from fantasies to real, but we did right.

Now what comes to the psychological engagement then ofcourse you got to be a bit in love to make love But same time you share it with your best friend you have definitely stronger bonds… With the friend who is happy for your pleasure, luck and other good things. Your friend who will always stay there, wait you home and share your good and bad days.

We like cuckolding more than other combinations and involvements as its just easier and more comfortable for me (husband) and she likes it as well.

Do not expect her to go out to seek a guy for sex as she have sex enough with you as guantity. She will do it with pleasure only if the flirt and the mood are real and chemistry appears between her and stranger. And she has to gain trust in both sides – she must feel secure with the other guy and she got to be sure that you support her whatever happens

We have had (unfortunately) small number of partners, but all the experiences were great as they came up naturally from real life.

I am new to cuckolding to the point I haven’t participated yet. When I suggest it my wife rejects the idea. I understand my role is the submissive in our sexual relationship which is hard but I am willing. We have been married seventeen years and I would not try to trick her or force her. Just let her know you are willing and follow her lead. I would not ever agree to my wife having sex with someone without me present, but can’t wait for her to open up to it.

I plan to keep offering porn to my Dominate and saying I would love to see you doing that with someone. If it happens okay if not I’m in this relationship for keeps.

Also I would incourage you to learn your wife. I recently started watching how my wife responds to other men and me. She is very deliberate in her actions. For example a friend got real close to her and she politely moved to put me between them. In the bedroom she calls the shots. Example I was fingering her and eating her and licking she popped my hand and pushed my head down into her pussy and she fingered herself. Follow her lead otherwise you are not really being a Dorm or submissive. I am the latter looking forward to being the former when she commands.