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Keels
Good day I posted earlier don’t know If it went on so here goes. Me and my husband have a brilliant marriage strong loveing open and amazing sex. He’s always had this cuckold fantasy at first If boggled me but it’s been years and years of talking and watching videos ect. Now I’m at point where we have found some one who is as open as we are and up for a play. My husband is willing to let me go to his house alone and reply back to him what happend there is no pressure from either men to actually go ahead they both respect me fully which I’m so grateful for. I’m just struggling to think that once it’s done and the amazing sex is over that may be a small part of my husband may regret knowing his wife of 11 years has been with anouther. He ‘re assured me every time I tell him this that he wouldn’t I just can’t get the feeling he may look at me differently because of this. His fanticy is strong and he’s never showed me any reason to think this way but maybe that’s normal and a risk we have to take. But is that risk to big??? HELP me please try to settle my mind and sexually move on. Thank you any one in advance
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Luvr
There is no doubt that such an event will cause your husband to see you differently – but to assume it will change it negatively is your first misstep.
Your husband has encouraged and been supportive of this idea for some time now so it’s really up to him to a)continue to be supportive and b) remember that he’s the one who asked for and encouraged this. It’s also up to you to be as transparent and open about what happens as possible. This is how you will make your husband feel included in something he wasn’t actually part of. IT’s this process that helps him feel more aroused and rewarded by these events than being threatened by them. It may take some time for you to find your voice and be able to share the details, but it’s important you work together toward that goal.
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Keels
Thank You for your advice it’s appricatied. I’m a closed person in all aspects so it takes some getting used to which is perfectly normal. The more we talk about this and what he desires and how he wants from me been with outhers I’m not saying doesn’t get me off to it’s actually quite arousing to know he trusts me fully to explore this if he wasn’t there says a lot about us. And I’d likentpu think we’d both fully enjoy this experance we have a willing friend who’s single so he’s very open and honest how had be with us. ‘re programming that actually what sexual desires you have isn’t in anyway a big deal. Just a confidence thing I suppose to actually take that leap. Thank you again
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MatureMUK
its really the man whom has regrets . often the female can feel regrets. afterwards as cheap or if my hubby lets another man make love to me .how can he love me?
though for cuckolds the real love is so strong that. when another man does contribute to the relationship ..he. is even more in love with wife.
it’s doubtful his. desires will change. but will in fact become. stringer. and he more aroused.
open communication is essential. there is a real risk of emotional attachment to a man making love to a female . so strong bonds and one honest. communication is essential to keep things. going well.
it is your self that may find things change . you will either find it not to your taste and. be unsatisfied or..find that actually you now have sexual freedom . no involvement that. has issues and a lover whom is there just to please you.it can be addictive!
any ‘rules’ you both set tend to be altered with time . though safe sex is a starting point. good luck and. do ask questions if unsure or needing support. -
Keels
I love how open and honest this site it been a newbie you can’t just pop the subject up to your “normal” friends. All comments taken on board and safety been the key. And secondly been able to just enjoy the experanced or know either way it’s not for you. My hubby has never once implied anything but supprt and asked how id like it first time to ease pressure on my mind then when he can actually be there giving me full control over his fanticy. Openess is deffintly the key one iv adjusted to agreeing to it. Thank you
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