Marriage Evolved discussion Lifestyle Discussions Getting Started Wanting to tell a partner, but how?

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    • Fuzz
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        Send me a note or look for me ( Fuzz ) in the chat queue regarding the topic and I’ll give wives or husbands a no risk way to broach the subject. Any chats I have are non-judgmental and confidential, unless a person wants me to share.

      • Atom
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          I’ve talked with my wife about my desires…wanting her share her and let others enjoy her as well. She just isn’t into it…doesn’t want to talk about it…help!

          • Cathy & Jerry
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              To start it all off, don’t do it while you’re in the middle of sex because it just looks like you’re trying to amp up the sexual excitement with the “sharing” thing, so she’ll just take it as “horny talk”. Take her to a nice restaurant with private tables/booths where you can sit and talk to her without others nearby overhearing your conversation. After you’ve ordered your meals and have drinks on the table, hold her hands and tell her how much you love her and that you would like her to have an open mind to what you’re wishing to talk to her about. Explain how you feel without sounding “horny”, try to get her to understand that she’s the most important thing to you in the world and that you would really like to see her having more “excitement” in her life, tell her how you think she’s so very beautiful and sexy and that she could have an amazing time being pleasured by a boyfriend.

              Be sure to tell her that you’re not looking to play with another woman so she doesn’t have to think that you’re only doing this so you can justify finding a playmate yourself. Ask her to at least look at what other women and couples are saying about the lifestyle, how they found that cuckolding has improved their relationships and even saved marriages. Explain that it’s not just a “sexual” thing, it’s a change from the dull norms of life and marriage and she’ll be able to enjoy a lover without thinking that she’s “cheating” on you, she won’t have to hide anything from you at all. Also, explain that you’re not wanting her to do this because you want to watch her, explain that if she would like to be alone with her lover then you feel that she should have that alone time with him, but if she wants you there, then you’ll be there for her until such time that she feels comfortable with her new man.

              The conversation can go in many different directions but don’t allow it to get out of control. If she doesn’t want to discuss it at all then don’t push it, just tell her that you respect her wishes and won’t bring it up again unless she decides that she’d like to know more. But if she’s at least willing to listen and learn, then offer to show her this site and other decent cuckolding sites, let her read the stories and comments and even go on to chat with other wives such as myself. Explain that there are some men out there who are only looking for the sexual excitement of chatting about cuckolding, but in most cases aren’t cuckolds at all, but there are a great deal of “real” cuckolding men and women online who are honest and know what they’re talking about, and many of them, such as my self, are very willing to talk to others who are curious about the lifestyle. I have been cuckolding Jerry for 16 plus years and I have been seeing a wonderful man for the last 6 years and I have (for the first time ever) fallen in love with him, and Jerry is very happy for us. I enjoy talking to other ladies who have had thoughts about having a lover. I have guided several ladies in the lifestyle including one of my own best friends who is now cuckolding her husband much to his delight. Maybe in the near future you’ll be telling others about how wonderful it is that your lovely wife is spending a night or weekend with her lover.
              Good luck,

              Cathy

          • Fuzz
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              Cathy,
              Thanks for the advice, but that wasn’t what I was looking for. I have a very simple test a wife or husband can administered which will show if a husband is cuck or stag material. And this test doesn’t even bring up the topic of hotwifing or cuckolding.
              The test I tell couples is very simple. Before you fool around and you’re naked in bed, share stories about your sexual experiences before you were married. The wife wants to make her stories as graphic as possible. If the husband becomes aroused and hard listening to her tell him about other men fucking her, he is almost certainly cuck or stag material. If he doesn’t, she knows it’s likely he isn’t. The beauty of this test is if he does get aroused and hard, the wife can comment on that saying something like, “It looks like you like the thought of other men being with me.” If he has held any fantasies of her hotwifing, this is his opening to take advantage and answer back, “I guess my body gave me away. Do you ever have that desire? To be with a different man for sex?”
              The beauty of this test is the topic of hotwifing and/or cuckolding is approached in a non-threatening manner. If the husband does not get aroused by hearing his wife’s sex stories, then the lifestyle is probably off the table. The other good thing about this test is the husband can suggest sharing stories and when he gets aroused by hearing his wife’s stories, she may comment on his hardon. If she doesn’t, he can always apologize for getting so aroused which could lead to an open conversation about the lifestyle.
              Thanks again for your advice and suggestions. I think you misinterpreted my original posting, or i need to edit it and make it clearer.
              John

              • Cathy & Jerry
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                  John, my advice was under Atom’s question and I was answering him, it had nothing to do with you. If you look under his comment/questions you’ll see that my comment is over more to the right, meaning that I was responding to him, not commenting on yours. Take care

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