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      Cindy and james

        First I’d like to thank whoever has the time to read this and give opinion “THANKS”.
        We met in 2000, I established that I was into the lifestyle of swinging etc, and if not her thing that was ok, cause plainly we would not be compatible.
        We swang had great times, and based on tried true arousal and gratification was playing MFM, mild cuckolding, where I was in charge but she was having all the fun (I was behind the camera).
        She got injured, was given these terrible pills, realized what they were doing and got off of them.
        Doctors aren’t doctors their pharma reps…anyway.
        This stopped our playing, dead…all the way around.
        After 6 months or so, things came back to life and we “played both among ourselves with a feature happening 1-3 times a month.
        We got married…about 6-8 months after, she’s just not into it.
        Sex is a sometime thing, (use to be at least twice a week) now lucky if it’s every second month.
        A large part of this is me, I am not into the str8 up me and her without the “fringe benefits” being tangled in there.
        She went dry and cold during a “healthy encounter” with a younger stud….and he noticed right away that she was not into it.
        Now as a swinging couple we are very “communicative” but if she’s not into what turns my crank, is she expecting me to change?
        BTW, she still reaps the benefits, the jewelry, gifts, treated like a princess.
        It would be devastating to the marriage if A) it stays as it is and or B) I stopped treating like I need to compete for her……does these last six words make sense?
        We’ve talked, we are still close, but this isn’t working for me at all….
        Any insight (and yes according to her blood work menopause isn’t here yet) would be appreciated.

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        nigelcuck

          Hi, trust you are well. It may be hard to accept but we are simply not built for that much sex. Luvr talks a lot about what is biologically natural and so on. Sexual excitment is the most tremendous feeling, you feel good relaxed loose when having sexual fun. But what is happening inside. Your brain is reacting to a natural external stimulant and you are feeding it almost in a feedback loop. The brain produces dopamine and takes up seratonin.The brain is experiencing the same feelings as would the brain of a drug addict where the same process is stimulated chemically.Through time and with use a balance is attempted by the brain chemistry whcih will attemp to return you to normal.Normal biological sexual relations happen a lot quicker and there is a lot more selection takes place before hand, good old natural selection. A man meets a woman he is highly attracted to and her him the chemistry is there and they make love very quickly compared to cuckolding Afterwards they relax in each others company which they enjoy and they learn to enjoy things other than sex together as both get little pleasure signals just by looking at each other.Women seem to know this instinctivly. The cuckold wants these feelings all the time and I suspect in many occassions the cuckold is with a woman he never loved in the first place but with high sexualisation of the relationship he can feel something similar to love.The cuckold then cannot find the proper biological relationship because he has ruined his chanced by putting something in between him and nature. He is trying to fool a system which is millions of years old. it never works.

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