first how do you feel about this turn of events. truthfully.
if I read between the lines I get that you are maybe not so turned off by all of this. I get that she might be tapping into what YOU have had in your brain all along.
is this possible? you have already acceded to wishes and she seems, in some ways, to have taken control of your sex life. she is absolutely trying to cuckold you in her own way and again I say perhaps not w/out evidence to support it that she may have read you correctly , in which case this is not so much of a problem. it all about how you deal w/ it and whether your marriage is strong enough to carry the load. perhaps she need to do a little reading about cuckold marriage too.
many cuckoldresses might have merely locked your cock away. look on the bright side.
just my thoughts
John (The Old Bull )