Re: Warning to wanabee cuckolds

Nigel-you write with huge feeling and after a difficult and traumatic experience-I can’t hope to offer sense to the same without seeming trite, arrogant or insensitive. So i’ll only reflect on my experiences and what seems to make the difference as regards a woman who wants and enjoys continuing relationships with two men, one dominant and one submissive. I don’t think its a formula about getting what she wants and an all or nothing thing about staying or leaving. I think it is mix of things so here are my ingredients. She is usually:

– intelligent, both as regards reasoning and emotions too. It sounds elitest to say that only bright women need apply to be cuckoldresses but it is nonetheless true, I think, that less intelligent women run bigger risks as do their cucks when things develop.
-mature, and by that I mean in her third or fourth decade or greater. Now young women can be cuckoldresses when the sap is high, but its often more chaotic and possibly less insightful. My guess is by these decades a woman has understood so much about change, and with luck (so rare I know) has come to cherish what she already has when she thinks about securing more.
– forthright. In many cases she has told her husband that she would like to be different, to live differently now, but still with his involvement. I guess she feels that she cannot be the woman she was at 20 and neither can her husband be that man. So she wants to be something more, to be exotic, unattainable for him perhaps, but something different with another man too. That same forthrightness by the way comes the bull’s way too. She knows her own mind and if he tries to intoxicate her too much, then she says stop, or we finish. Bull’s aren’t universally mature.
-composed, enough unto herself as well as exciting to others. She understands that to flirt is normal, to humiliate may be too, because in the end these are adjuncts to who she is and then men are as well. If I humiliate you it is because I want to do it and you respond to it in ways that please. I know who I am and in that I also know what complements me.
An effort anyway.