Re: Warning to wanabee cuckolds

Jezz’s post above is one of the best i’ve read on this site. Ever. If I could add a few thoughts of my own that, to an extent, correspond to the ones he raised

1. i absolutely agree that it isn’t elitist to say that intelligent, in fact, VERY intelligent wives are best suited to cuckold their husbands. Val has an advanced degree and reads more than anyone I’ve ever known (including some wonderful literature that references cuckolding). Importantly, she’s intelligent enough that she’s never felt therapy was taboo and has used it as an opportunity to explore her feelings about having relationships with other men. i think a less intelligent woman would immediately see my happiness at being cuckolded as a prevision. While Val doesn’t claim to understand it (who does?) she respects it as part of my make up and has always impressed that i’m secure enough in myself to share that with her.
2. agree totally about maturity. i had the experience of being cuckolded by two different women in my 20s and both relationships ended with very painful, and completely unnecessary. break-ups. Why? Largely because the two young women couldn’t accept that it’s possible to love more than one man. Though. In all honesty, I contributed to it, too: as a young man i felt no small amount of confusion about being cuckolded (i didn’t know there was even a word for it at the time). i haven’t stayed in touch with either Carol or Diane, but i wouldn’t doubt that, over the years they’ve evolved from clumsy and confused young cuckoldresses into loving, cuckolding wives (at least i hope so)
3. Regarding being forthright, Val believes I need to understand her needs — even if it’s sometimes painful for me. She’s clear about her love for me, but also very clear in telling me that i’m not a suitable partner for her sexually (and in some other respects). I should add that Val is also very clear about her own needs with the men she’s slept (especially if any suggest she leave me). She’s no pushover.
4.On this point I don’t think jezz and i are on the same page. Even though Val and i both understand that being a cuckold is fundamentally humiliating, she doesn’t want to rub my nose in it as some cuckoldresses do. That said, she does things that unintentionally are very humiliating .. and, of course, i love it when she does : )