Re: Where does it end?

Dear Jack, This is a very honest and thoughtful post and one that importantly sketches in the evolution of your lifestyle arrangement. Without that background, the journey through swinging etc, it would be easy to suppose that you have simply progressed with your interlude faster than seems wise. Whilst you pose the question ‘can this go on’ I sense that the deep concern relates to your complex emotions and the need to understand hers. There is too a query too about dealing with the frustration of denial. This blog has loads of guidance on those matters from Luvr-so I certainly commend you read those. Complete, absolute and forever denial is not going to sustain the new lifestyle relationship, and I think that you have to raise that with your wife. Whilst you completely support her sexual choices, her will in these matters, there remains a consensual bond in the cuckold lifestyle and there needs to be some gratification beyond imagination and occasional witnessing for you. A hotwife has to manage her cuck as well as enjoy her boyfriend.

Now my points come from the bull perspective, but I have shared a few honest conversations with cucked husbands, so I hope nonetheless that they seem valuable to you.

Cuckold angst
There is certainly a load of this in your post and I sense that you know this is normal. Much that is sexy about the lifestyle concerns the woman’s right to chose and with that comes the possibility that she might abandon you altogether. It is a terrible idea to confront, but the cuck cannot live on the edge without that possibility. Experiencing angst is important for many cucks-it is a necessary aspect of the roller coaster ride where you are no longer in charge. Creating angst is part of what comes with the territory of being a hot wife. Your wife challenges you to submit. When you do so, wisdom is then required regarding when to ease back on that. Constant and perpetual angst finally ruins the thrill of this sort of sex, it becomes dangerous and unhealthy. It may be the case that your wife hasn’t thought that through, whether she lays this on too thick. Reference to being married to her bull, having his baby are very powerful ideas and they need to be used cautiously, sparingly.

Being exclusive with her bull
Its natural I think for a hotwife to want to be owned by her bull, to have pussy reserved for him. This perhaps arises through three things. a) the realisation that this man gives her extreme orgasms and she cannot help making harsh comparisons (your point about the ankle chain is part of that valued added eroticism-being with ‘a proper man’). b) the social convention training that to copulate with two men is sluttish and unwomanly. Even if a hotwife has broken such taboos through swinging parties for example, I think that this remains deep rooted. c) being lost in the thrill of a dominant man, especially if he dates as well as fucks her. It is very tempting to exclude the husband completely in what seems a new dating season. If this is indeed an interlude, then you have to accept that. You will be out in the cold for a while. But a wise hot wife, one who learns to manage, perhaps to dominate her husband, starts to explore other, substitute measures that confirm to her husband that she has not forgotten him. Classically, that takes the form of cunnilingus. But some women won’t allow that and more fetishist substitutes are used, those that can be felt as ‘sexual’. I have known men lick boots, sniff and lick panties, all with the hotwife’s consent. Indeed, some hotwives have then directed such activity, working with the submissive/masochistic psyche of the husband. It works because the hotwife can continue enjoy sex with her bull, whilst diverting the cuck husband to something else that seems mutually sexy. She feel’s owned by her bull and casts crumbs on the floor for the cuck to pick up. There is then no need to abandon the husband completely, because he demonstrably has stopped competing against the alpha male. If the cuck learns to submit to the bull as well, and perhaps later, even publicly, then the triangle is reinforced. But I know that takes a long long time and considerable forbearance and emotional intelligence.

Intelligent bulls
You don’t post so much about the bull, but my feeling is that bulls have a significant responsibility to help manage this transition. Make no mistake red blooded bulls enjoy taking a wife, they like outcompeting a husband, and some like to see the hotwife humiliate her husband. But once cuck submits then it is time to consolidate the victory and help the hotwife become a mistress in two senses-his companion in chosen settings and the lady who rules her husband. No right thinking bull forgets that there is a husband involved here too, that he has needs and has made big sacrifices. So bulls should encourage hot wives to think about best management of cucks, they should signal that they want a cuck involved too. Its more than not simply taking the wife off you.

So what is sustainable is what is talked about, what is mutually consented to and what is understood as regards new roles and responsibilities. Asking for some part in the sex scene is not unreasonable, but you may find that it needs to be menial. Having your cake and eat it (as a hot wife) involves the need for forethought and consideration, as well as a steely resolve to have your own way in bed.
I hope that this helps-that it doesn’t seem trite.