Re: Cuckolding as a way to maintain a long distance relationship

Thank you for the reply Luvr. Here are my responses to your points except for #5 which I felt was as excellent observation

Part 1: We talked it over and essentially said “fuck it, let’s just tell everyone we are in an open relationship,”. Luvr is right in saying narrowing the field of people you know into friends is important. Moving into this part of our life means our people should accept us just as easily as they accept any other alternative lifestyle.

Part 2: Sourcing a guy who is interested in dating a cute subby asian girl shouldn’t be a problem I agree. Poking around the kink groups hasn’t yielded anything of note so we are going back to just seeing what type of guy approaches her and throwing the situation out there for them and seeing if they bite. Main thing we want to avoid is someone who agrees to take on the dom role with her, but is doing it just as a pretense to get with her which would ultimately leave her unsatisfied.

Part 3: Letting it grow organically is best, but at the same time there are items we need to incorporate for our personal satisfaction. For her, she needs to feel like she’s not splitting herself between two people, but rather giving herself to one of us.With our experience and preference for bdsm, we both acknowledge that she doesn’t want two dominants, but rather a single dom in charge of her. This requires her to see a distinctive A/B category between myself and the other guy. Making this distinction has been covered in a few posts on this site, but we are hitting the roadblock of those distinctions require physical proximity to work (thought we see chastity devices with plastic locks being a tentative option), and also has us pondering that at what point does us requesting “x,y,z” result in overstepping our positions in the relationship and topping from the bottom?

Part 4: Facetime/google hangouts/ video messages are all good options. We were thinking about setting up a private instagram account with access shared between the three of us only so that they could post up ‘couple’ type pictures when going out/explicit ones etc… but I’m still at a lost for what we can do for engagement on my end. Having a peek into their developing relationship is fun and exciting, but having something beyond that would be a great bonus on top.