Cuckolding as a way to maintain a long distance relationship

That’s a massive question, my friend, but welcome. I’ll take at least a quick stab at some feedback for you.

Forecasted Issues to Resolve:
1. How to describe this to our social circle?
If friends are that much into your business AND judgmental, you may find out who is actually a friend and who is just someone you know. When we’re younger, we tend to cast a very wide social net and include many who we have very tenuous bonds with. This is an opportunity to narrow that field and find the valuable friends who can accept you two being ‘different’.
Turn a negative into a positive; how many of her girlfriends would kill to have a boyfriend who loved them enough to let them date while geographically separated?
Sharing her, short-term, is better than losing her altogether forever. Expecting her to be chaste and ‘wait’ isn’t realistic.

2. How can she meet guys who are boyfriend potential and sufficiently dominant to her tastes?
Really? You have to ask how a girl meets guys? The same way she’s always met them – by being a girl and socializing. The things worth having/enjoying in life are seldom easily attained/achieved, so it should be expected that she’ll have to do some looking and even dating to weed out the losers.

3. Our roles when seeing each other again and should her boyfriend be invited with her to visit?
This is all very dependent on how things progress should she begin dating someone. She should be very clear about the nature of your relationship and that he is an addition to it, not a replacement. From there, the details can be worked out.

4. What suggestions on integrating me into her experiences would be possible due to the long distance component?
Technology is cheap and easy these days. From inexpensive web cams to technology like Facetime and Skype, being involved should be relatively easy and rewarding for you both. For $50 you can buy a web-based netcam that’s easily set up and can be accessed by you online or through an app anywhere. This would be useful to witness their coupling without being intrusive or requiring their active participation. It could be simply unplugged when not in use (requires wi-fi). Applications like facetime would be easy and enable more interaction between you two and potentially between the three of you. This might be a good way for her to warm him up to the idea of you being involved. This is what the first wife I was with did with me, but using the phone. This sort of involvement is absolutely critical for you since you will have no other sexual outlet than that which she provides. The risk is that you are out of sight and therefore easily out of mind. She will have to work at this.

5. How do we ensure I’m using cuckolding as means of outsourcing my responsibilities as a boyfriend onto someone else until I’m done and ready to get back together?
That’s not something you ensure – that’s something she ensures why welcoming another male into your relationship, into her bed and inside her. It’s up to her to express her needs (and what she doesnt need) from him. If he comes to appreciate this concept and you two can interact more freely, you may be able to help more directly in seeing to her needs through him as a proxy, but initially, it’s all her.

It’s not topping from the bottom when you assert yourself to prevent behavior which would endanger health, safety, or the relationship. Having one Dom is the absolute correct perspective. A relationship can contain more than one bull, or a Dom and one or more bulls even, but more than one Dom will create chaos for all. As you already know, there are a lot of guys who confuse being bossy or seeing to only their own interests as being dominant. Some of them are simply inexperienced/ignorant, which can be fixed, while others are just douche bags. Be quick to tell them apart.

As much as she doesn’t want to feel split between two of you, that’s a necessity to some degree. If she’s not split between you, you’re not involved. You can (and most likely will be) involved differently, receiving different parts/types of her attention than he is, which makes it easier on her, but any good or even great experience comes with a price. She cannot expect to have a loving life partner/cuckold and a bed-warming Dom at no cost of effort for herself.

Given your time constraints, perhaps one venue of sharing in this experience is to have her blog here about her relationship as it starts and grows. This would enable her, or even her Dom, to post here when they are able and for you to read it when able while also helping other couples find this path together.

I tried cuckolding once many years ago with a girlfriend in Ohio while I lived on the west coast. I asked her to engage in as much sex with whoever she wanted as much as she wanted, since I felt she needed more experience and we were being separated for months at a time. There wasn’t any way I felt good about her remaining faithful for months since she was young and deserved to have sex as often as she wished. I also asked her to masturbate as often as possible if she wasn’t being fucked on a regular basis, something she’d rarely done before. She readily agreed to fuck any guy she liked, which surprised me a bit, but I really wanted her to have fun with other men and get laid as often as possible.

She was a bit picky, and found only one guy she liked enough to have sex with, and he turned out to be a poor lover. His cock was small, and he was real fast on the trigger. She saw him quite a bit, but they eventually broke up over his inadequacies, especially the cumming quick part. He just didn’t do it for her.

She began to masturbate frequently as well, and by doing so she learned to cum easier than she had before. I was only her second sex partner, so she definitely was in need of experience in reaching orgasms by herself and with other men.

We eventually broke up and it was really ugly. The cuckolding and masturbation didn’t have anything to do with our breakup. I still feel really bad for her even now, although it’s been over 35 years since I last saw her.