Re: Is there something I am not getting

Pretty full post above and all thoughtful. I will concentrate on just the last bits and the bull. I think it valuable for an alpha woman to have just one bull, but to be able to fuck with other alpha males with his support. The bull creates the atmosphere, the milieux within which she can express her needs and yes, decide with whom she might procreate. He is her partner for sure, but he is a mentor too. She is provided with a circle or a tribe that support her choices and establish the norm of the most able and the most attractive fucking in ways that make sense to them. This is a circle that is not purely egoistic though, it is one where the submissive male need is met as well. Opportunities are made for the submissive male to play a full supportive role. That takes so many forms- giving head, supporting his mistress financially and practically in the home, handling the chores of life so that she is able to live a freer life. Leaders need followers, the elite need the plebiscite. If it sounds a bit like the bull is the mistress maker, the person who helps the alpha female ascend to her throne- then that is about right. This isn’t some regressive trip back to the dark ages either, the time of significant inequality. It is a recognition that sameness for all is hard to sustain. There is a lot of sameness today-and I’m not just talking store chains in the mall. Nothing seems better, worth striving for, nothing feels like an achievement any more. But doing it the cuckold way, all are challenged to think harder to work to concerted effect. The hotwife has to manage her cuck husband. She may never have bothered much with him before. The cuck has to lean to submit in ways that are practical but which seem sexy too. The bull has to sustain his performance, to excite the alpha female AND (its a big one), think about the bigger circle of like minded folk. He has to find ways to make it easier and more stimulating for all concerned. A alpha woman, like any other, needs a secure setting to live her way. Its your point about having time and resource on her hands. She is powerful because of her sex appeal, because men want to inseminate her. But she isn’t physically powerful as a man is, so its the bull’s role to help her achieve a safe environment to be sexual.

Now this runs a bit counter for some bulls who are in this for the pleasure and what they can take. They love cucking because they get one over on a weaker male. They take his wife. Don’t get me wrong-that is part of my agenda too. It is what I find erotic. I’m a hedonist as well as a low grade philosopher. But selfish pleasure simply isn’t enough for a cuckold lifestyle and this blog remember does call itself cuckold marriage. It ain’t just about the occasional thrill. Luvr’s posts are about managing things, and sustaining something mutually sexy. So a bull has to think on. He has to strategise a little and yes (as I indicate my companion thread, in praise of Emily) he has to confront his own emotions and selfish desires. It is comparatively easy to want to own several women, to protect them for sure but then to contain them so that no one else explores things with them. The selfish gene looms large. But a confident hot wife, one with presence and attitude out grows that. She needs to submit to the alpha male, but she doesn’t need him to treat her as a brainless bimbo. The best hotwives I have ever known have always wanted both submission and freedom. They want to assert as well as submit. Its the contrast between the two that provides some of the zest in life. So in my thread, I do have to think on and not think I can keep Emily and Mags as mine. I would run out of energy and time. I would stifle women that deserve a good deal better and i would limit life opportunities for James as well.

This isn’t easy. Its so hard to be a mix of physical male and thoughtful person. The two aren’t a ready mix and its hard to find them. When you do, they’re still working on the balance. But I believe that we are important. If (and it is a big if) people into the cuckolding lifestyle are to establish their own space and the freedom to live their way, then it is thoughtful bulls who help build that. They help create tribes, or circles, wherein alpha women can be alpha and beta males can be beta. Sometimes we have to rein our own egos, to set aside a selfish desire. Read the thread-I ain’t getting it right all the time. Giving Emily full rein requires trust and she excites me so much that is hard. We’re learning.

Last polemical point. I love sexy pictures of beautiful women getting it on with well hung males. I like the in your face captions that get attached to them, the looks and the gestures they use towards the camera (and cuck). But this is just a part of our language. Its what we use to arouse and sustain us. Its the antidote to blandness and so important whilst folk wait and hope to build a cuck lifestyle of their own. But never think that this is the whole of it. If all cuckolding is just the caption, then this is indeed a fetish, a thrill. I don’ believe that and neither have some I have known. They might not be word smiths, but they have tried to convey this wish to live differently. Party political broadcast over. A poster pinned up on behalf of the sincerely different party-the men and the women.