Re: Cuckolds,should we all be very careful with all of this

You are absolutely correct CIP, I agree with you totally, and it is partly for the reasons you state that I posted my original. A lot of couples have communication difficulties not just with sex. In fact a lot of people have communication difficulties in the modern world; there are a lot of very lonely people who exist in their own heads. This is just modern life brought about by lots of things including the needs of the economy, lack of social groups, loss of religious belief rightly or wrongly depending on your viewpoint. I am not a religious person but I do recognise that in times past religious worship and community bonded people together. This was lost by many without any viable replacement.

The danger for some wanabee cuckolds is that they live like all of us in a world where communication is not what it could be and social groups can be non existent, at least of a type which bonds people in a common belief system.

A lonely man desperate for a belief system, something to rely on, may start investigating this and that type of relationship desperately hoping that he can hit on something his wife/partner would enjoy enough to incorporate this in his and her life.

The danger for him is he may let his fantasies run away with him and may start practicing some of the actions of a cuckold, i.e. personal denial. He may also start wanting his wife to dress sexually or more provocatively and so on. The danger, the really big danger, is if he has not communicated this to his wife/partner properly his actions may be misunderstood. His self denial for example may be seen as impotence. There is impotence and there is impotence. There is medical impotence and stress related impotence all of which are understandable.There is however another type of impotence. That is the type which occurs in the man who just does not make the effort. This is easy to understand. A man can just get sexually lazy with his partner, involve himself in other things hobbies and so on. He has in fact lost interest due to lack of practice. A youngish woman, I believe anyhow, is less likely to loss interest in sex as she is hardwired to drive for pregnancy. Again with no communication by the wanabee cuckold the woman may despair at him and may even have an affair not because it is cuckolding but due to apparent lack of interest in her by her husband.

This site is good in that it is the only proper cuckolding lifestyle site I know of. However it can be a bit of a trap for the unwary. There is in some areas here a belief that cuckolding or the desire or need that a woman multipartner is a natural phenomena which applies universally. I don’t think it is.

I would welcome a section on communication and a help section for wanabee cuckolds where things have gone wrong.