Re: Cuckolds,should we all be very careful with all of this

Thats the same with any lifestyle. As Ive said, we used to run a swingers club. Hardly a day would go by that I would meet a couple that was either their to try and fix a spiraling relationship, or would show up and had never talked about any rules or situations and how to handle it.

The cuckolding desire isnt what will destroy their relationship, its the simply the lack of communication. This would be like someone drowning and ruling the death “lack of oxygen”. Well, yes, I guess you COULD say that, but there was a much deeper reason behind it.

If anyone is thinking about this, OR ANY alternative lifestyle, and you dont have good solid communication AND a secure relationship,,,,,,, someone WILL GET HURT.

Even with good communication, mistakes will happen, but if you can talk over everything, most, if not all, issues can be resolved. 

My wife and I talk about everything. We talk about the things we try and enjoy, and we talk about the things that went wrong.

Case in point. When we were both swinging, we decided we needed a break from playing with others for a time being. Well, we had already committed to help out at a friends huge weekend swinger party/porn shoot, so we told most our friends that we were not playing during the party. Well, one guy showed up that my wife had loved playing with in the past (Im pretty sure his 10″ and thickness was the attraction). They, and others were swimming naked in the pool all day, and drinking. I had run up to the store to get food/supplies. When I came back out to the pool, he was having sex with her in the pool. The hostess even saw my look of betrayal on my face. I was clearly upset. Rather than throwing a fit, getting in a fight, I just went into the house, so my wife could at least have fun finishing up. When she came in, I pulled her into a bedroom and explained how I viewed this as cheating, ONLY because we had agreed not to play only the day before. She felt because she had played with Matt before several times that it wasnt the same. We talked it out. She saw my points, I saw hers, doesnt mean anyone was right or wrong, but because we could talk it out, it wasnt a big problem.

I agree with you. Many of these sites tend to be more fantasy than reality and communication resolution needs to be discussed more.