Re: Cuckolds,should we all be very careful with all of this

@nigelcuck said:

Thank you for your reply but I cannot for the life of me see how you view my comments s negative.

Let me explain.

If this were a site dealing with sky diving or motorcycle racing or some other dangerous sport it would most likely be joined by enthusiasts of the sport and no warnings may be required.

However, if for some reason, the above fantasy site attracted people who believed that risking life and limb was somehow the way to be, even natural to the degree they could enter a highly dangerous sport without equipment or preparation then I believe warnings are required.

I believe cuckolding is a fetish for some, sexual entertainment for others and for some even a lifestyle choice.

I believe some of my comments may prevent the unwary from entering a lifestyle or form of entertainment which may be damaging for them in some way.

However moving beyond that I do believe this is a good site for those committed to the lifestyle or fetish.

 

Nigelcuck, with all due respect – and I do mean that – topics like this put me in a most foul mood.

 

Let’s take your parallel at face value, that Cuckolding is equivalent to motorcycle racing or skydiving. It is true that such pursuits do, to a greater or lesser extent, emphasize the importance of safety precautions in their pursuits. That said, if you were to walk into a motorcycle club, or a meeting of skydivers and begin to holler at the top of your lungs “You’re all Fools! This is Dangerous! If you don’t follow my advice you’re all going to die!” – well, you would quickly become the least popular person in the room.

 

Why? Generally because anyone who has made it as far as such venues has a general idea of the risks involved, and can adequately address them with having reminders blared in their ears at every turn.

 

Now compared to motorcycle racing or skydiving, cuckolding has never thrown someone into the concrete at a hundred miles per hour, or left them as a red streak on the terrain after a twenty thousand foot drop. Frayed relationships – possibly. But the ‘danger’ is several orders of magnitude less. If the many men and women who regularly jump out of airplanes can appropriately manage that risk, it would seem to follow that cuckolds and cuckoldresses are perfectly capable of managing their own.

 

Nigel, I would ask you to consider your own perspective and views at this point.

 

Your words evidence a serious lack of faith in your fellow community members. Remember that there were cuckolds long before you joined (and indeed, long before the internet), and almost certainly, there will be some after you and I leave. The community has never deteriorated into a cacophony of destroyed marriages. Your fellow cuckolds and cuckold-wannabes are not helpless! While advice can be important, remember that we are all adults here, with our own experience and skills in navigating life and relationships.

 

Your original post also appears to reflect upon a particular view of women in the lifestyle as particularly in need of restraint, that wives will inexorably leave men who are too weak or ‘impotent’. Elsewhere, I’ve found that there are many men (and at least a few women) who enjoy the fetish, but cannot reconcile their interests with conventional views on gender roles and morality. In particular, in an altogether backward fashion, women are considered to be somehow predisposed to promiscuity and betrayal in a way men are not, and that if the husband does not step in to dominate and micromanage his spouse’s behavior – even as he encourages her to sleep around – then she will doubtlessly take advantage of him, because women can’t be trusted.

 

In contrast to this, I would say, hopefully with the support of much of the community here, that trust by both parties is the most important and essential part of this type of lifestyle.

 

Nigel, I don’t know your personal circumstances or individual experience in this lifestyle. I think, though, that a great deal of your discomfort comes from some lack of faith in your fellow community members, and certain lack of appreciation of how women in this lifestyle generally behave responsibly.

 

Overall, I think that Luvr’s blog has constantly emphasized the importance of trust and mutual enjoyment and understanding in this lifestyle. Shrill warnings such as this, delivered constantly, are neither necessary, nor appreciated.