Re: Says he is not a cuck, but…

Agree about the pejorative quality of the term “cuck” – i didn’t like this for years and swore blind i was a confident, sexually competent, alpha male who just happened to love watching his wife have amazing sex with other men (who I always secretly hoped would be taller, bigger and most importantly – better hung than me!)  My wife felt the same way (particularly about the bigger cocks!) and was reluctant to use the word.

Now i am comfortable to say that I am a cuck and we use the term between us without a problem.  We still don’t bother with the humiliation element – its just not our thing.  But we do acknowledge that her lovers are always (by design) much bigger than me and we are open and honest with each other about how much she has come to love the way that feels – emotionally and physically.

We both enjoy teasing me about the prowess of her lovers – but its not humiliation, i don’t feel threatened or demeaned, I am too confident in our relationship for that – we feel a tremendous bond of mutual closeness and intimacy that’s borne from the vulnerability of absolute honesty about what turns you on. 

in the end there is no formula for this – there is no right and wrong way to enjoy this lifestyle – or any other.  It’s a journey and your perspective changes as you go.