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    • #17637
      Startingout

        Hi, We’re a British couple in Baltimore/DC but travel to London frequently (will be there on Saturday). We are new to this lifestyle and we’re looking for advice on how to get started. My girlfriend (33, slim, sexy, with sandy, shoulder length brown/blond hair) doesn’t know how to go about finding the right guy. She’s looking for someone aged 29-40, in good shape, intelligent, educated, discreet and accommodating of safe sex (i.e. condoms). Craigslist seems too risky. Is that right? So how does she go about finding someone? What are the best sites?

        This is her/our first step into a new world, so it is vital that she has the confidence to proceed on a practical level. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

      • #17651
        Zer0NY

          we are the same , looking for the right bull seems hard .. we desire a steady

        • #17713
          MatureMUK
          Participant

            well there is always this site for a start. there are of course other cuck sites but as with craigslist not so easy to get genuine responses and some guys just seeking to get laid . we looking for a discrete .honest and trustworthy long term situation . it is possible but a many find the hard part isn’t getting wife fucked as many clubs etc can offer men available for random sex. it is getting a bull we find we enjoy company of as well as benefits. all about the chemistry between the three. humour and some interests in common are a good starting point. carrie men seem to be best bulls for ltr but come with baggage .time issues. one can’t write off craigslist but look at other sites first.

          • #17766
            Anonymous

              I like to join with u

            • #17780
              Professor

                Hi guys

                i am aware of Bull clubs in NY and DC.

              • #18419
                Say_Oy

                  What do you do for fun outside of sex and trips to London? (And what does London have to do with it?)

                  You don’t specify if you want a long term bull, friend with benefits, one night stands or a boy friend to date and do vanilla stuff along with the fucking. How frequently you want him fucking your wife if it’s a repeat relationship? Also define if you want one bull or several that have to share her.

                  Now you have some basis for conversation when you do the job interviews. 🙂

                  I would say look through your list of friends and acquaintances you like. Many men will be open to the idea of being your wife’s lover if you suggest it to them – or she talks to them and explains that you don’t mind. You just have to take a little risk but you can feel out friends with conversation ahead of time – after all, they are your friends so you talk. Look for more liberal types.

                  Craigslist and places like alt.com are aimed at people focused on sex. Ashley Madison is known for married women looking for hookups… Or try to find someone who’s posts you like on sits like this and start a conversation. 🙂 The main problem with sites like this is that the people are from all over. It’s hard to focus on finding people within your driving distance.

                  BTW, Condoms are NOT safe sex. They are safer than nothing but they fail 5%-14% of the time… and fluids leak around them. One guy I talked to used a condom but got Herpes 2 on his pubic area / belly. I recommend long term relationships so you can lose the condom or not worry about failure. Longer term relationships also allow for STD testing, plus an agreement about who sleeps with who to limit the contact circle.

                  • #19007
                    Chris

                      Studies done on heterosexual sero-discordant couples — where one partner is HIV-positive and the other HIV-negative — show that HIV was transmitted in zero to two percent of couples who correctly and consistently used male condoms for both vaginal and anal sex. With typical use, the HIV transmission rate increased to between 10 and 15 percent.

                      http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/answered-questions/explanation-condom-failure-rates

                      In other words, the failure rate for condoms is 2%. The failure rate for humans is much higher.

                  • #18959
                    Islander

                      The important thing is she feels comfortable with this process. A friend might be a good start. Ask him if he is interested and assure him it is something hubby is encouraging. Obviously, she needs to be taking the lead on the man she in interested in selecting as a lover. The hubby is basically a facilitator.

                    • #18962
                      Say_Oy

                        One other thought – check out the local Polyamory groups. They often have munches and workshops so you meet like minded people. The Baltimore area has several and there is a Baltimore/DC Polyamory group on Meetup.com.

                      • #20759
                        Eren

                          Hi i am 26 years old kinky bull

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