We talked about it, now what?

Hard to say since every situation is different.

I’ve found my wife is hesitant and unsure until she’s experienced something then she quickly embraces it. She didn’t like the idea of talking to a bull until she read a conversation I was having on Kik with a bull and she realised we really were talking about her and not other women and she found it very arousing. A Kik group chat was a natural next step and then she’s talking 1 on 1 with a bull, sending him pics and suggesting places to meet socially. My wife was very reserved so she and I were surprised how she loved talking filth to another man.

The biggest step change was for her to talk to another man. It’s harmless fun but it makes it real and she can hear from you how hot she is and how fun it can be but being desired by another man and seeing you actually enjoying it makes it real. It takes some effort but its so worth it.

Hello,

When I first told my fiancée about the idea of sharing her with another dominant man arousing, she was confused. However, I believe the mood and context, we were having sex and watching porn movies, helped her ‘digest’ this fantasy. Soon enough, she used this fantasy during our future sexual intercourses.

I’ve been able to confide in her and she accepted this fantasy, but I don’t know how to make this fantasy a reality. What words should come out of my mouth next? Should they be direct like, are we inviting another guy, or something more subtle like, what do you think?

To any reader taking time to reply, thank you in advance. I’d like some input or ideas from fellow members.

big difference fantasy and reality. at moment she can enjoy relaxed sex and fantasy. totally different with another real man around. emotional feelings will get raised.dealing with them can be the hardest part. good open communication is key.
agreeing rules of we feel we nee them ad adhering to them at least for 6 months. can add a stabilising factor.
never just meet and get wife shagged. they can feel used. dirty . chatting to a potential bull and eventual meet for coffee is a much needed prequal to any further meetings where intimacy will or is expected to occur. be aware its quite normal for a wife to not want husband watching first and even second time. listening is a different thing. as they fail to relax and cannot enjoy fully the sexual thrills offered by a bull . once past that first hurdle . its often the wife whom will start asking for further meets . take it slowly and ensure you have a 3 way form of trust and chemistry plus set goal where we want to be in say 3 months time.