Should I Agree With My Wife Visiting Her Bull for a Weekend Without Me

If your wife wants that too, then you should at least talk with her about it while keeping an open mind. My wife explained that she finds it easier to let go when she is alone with our bull. Perhaps your wife has similar feelings? If so, my advice would be to let her explore this lifestyle on her terms, and the bull’s, rather than yours.

I agreed with JsCuck. You must respect feelings and intimicy your wife when she wants, and needs, to be in the arms of a man. My wife stay with her boyfriend alone and i stay in house. husbands who don’t give sex or good sex to wives should not interfere with the pleasure that they are looking for another man.

My wife makes the decisions regarding visits with her bull although she always tells me if she wishes to meet him alone. I’m happy that he usually comes to our home.

I am a wife who is living this lifestyle.
My husband and I have talked about something like this even before my first sexual encounter with another male . As you have not and it’s not easy to think of everything
I think you and your wife should talk about this and other issues if you have any and agree on who snd when makes decisions as to her being sexual
Let her tell you what she wants and you both should make a decision
If you don’t want to make the decision let her do it
In our case , my lovers never come to our house , it’s something we agreed from the start
I always tell my husband in advance if or when I plan on being sexual, although there was situations when it was sudden and I had no time or desire
I then informed my husband about what happened
You guys are married
Not the other guy and her
But that is how we deal with things
PS
I must admit that I don’t always tell hubby everything
But he knows I keep things from him
Smile
Enjoy
Anna B

yes i think it more what does she want to do? if she wishes to spend the night or weekend then discuss it. also who might miss her if she is away, kids, family or such, what would be the cover story?

You both have to talk it through and be confident together that it’ll be a fun thing to do. Everybody’s different, for some people this is a great way for her to just get some time to let loose sexually while for others there needs to be both together at all times.

You have to discuss it together and decide between each other. Perhaps a compromise would be for you to be close by but not in the same building so perhaps a hotel somewhere or just some phone fun/Facetime so there’s still some communication.

I agree with Anna Bella – you need to speak with her about it if he asks you again.
I have to say that I do find it a bit patronising that he’s asking you about a decision that should be hers – but perhaps I’m interpreting what you have said correctly.
I stay overnight quite regularly with my bf – it works for us (me!) better that evenings as it’s less of a rush and I get the opportunity to relax and really enjoy the experience. It is more intimate because I end up actually sleeping with him and the closeness of sharing a bed is more akin to a bf/gf relationship than a sort of affair type feeling – if that makes any sense?
I have only spent an entire weekend away with a bf on two occasions. Both I really enjoyed, we did act like a couple but one that was only just discovering each other and it had that kind of new love type feel where we couldn’t keep our hands off each other.
So in summary:-
1. You need to talk to your wife about what she would like.
2. You need to be sure that you can cope with the more intense experience
3. She needs to think if she can cope with it too.
Only the two of you can make the final choice I’m afraid!
Best of luck

It seems you have enough advice regarding open communication and making sure everyone is on board so I won’t regurgitate that for you.

I will say that my wife has spent the night at her boyfriend’s a number of times, has gone away for weekends, and in fact lived with him for a short while (which is outside of the scope of your question). Sometimes I was in chastity… Sometimes not.

Be prepared that there’s a different kind of mental anguish that comes with this. It’s incredible hot but you are completelu detached from what’s happening so it leaves your mind to race. Some of the times she stayed with him I would get occasional texts and would be sent pics of what’s going on. But other times I would get radio silence and would have to wait for her to come home.

I honestly prefer when she and her boyfriend are together at our home. I can listen from the other room and participate when invited in. However, it’s still an incredible mind fuck when she’s away and I can only imagine what she and he are doing.

My opinion is that it’s worth it to try at least once…

More important in the theatre of marriage is emotional relations. If your wife and you are a strong cumplicity, dont be afraid about wife sex alone with her lover. Don’t forget your wife need’s sex and sometimes sex need’s privacy. In your profile you said your wife think your are good sissy husband,
intelligent women have a strong capacity emotional, they know separate emotional love of sexual love. Women appreciate fearless men even in sissies. But, if you don’t like absolutely your wife alone with her lover because you feel it is dangerous for your marriage, tell her up front, be fearless.

I can only speak from our experience and my wife spending the weekends with her bull has been one of the highlights of the lifestyle for us. She enjoys the freedom and being his slut for extended periods where she doesn’t need to worry about focusing on me. Then when she comes back, we are focused on each other.

If you are a true cuckold then she is the one that decides if she spends the weekend with her Bull. You should have no say in it at all. The only thing she should do is to let you know that she is going to do it and when she plans to be back. If she decides to stay longer than planed then she should let you know so you won’t worry about her.

You’ve had plenty of advice about open communication between the two of you before you decide whether or not to do this. I’d be interested to hear what you decided in the end?

My wife has spent nights and weekends away with several different men over the years, and we’ve always found it to be a vital part of our cuckold life. She enjoys the freedom of being “his” for the night or the weekend, able to do whatever they want as they want, and enjoying being together outside of the bedroom too.

I find it to be intensely arousing…the more so because your imagination works overtime and of course the mind is the most important sexual organ!

Interestingly, for me, it’s not just imagining my wife and the man engaged in sex. I also really enjoy the thought her being with him as “his”…thinking of her with him at a romantic dinner, or at a satisfied breakfast the next day, or going out to a movie or a bar for a drink…all those “little” things that she would normally be doing with me, but instead she’s doing it with another man.

talk with your wife, but I think you shuold agree!
my wife spend some weekend with lover, and rare bu happens, also shor vacancy!! at beginning is very har for me but now I’m so happy konwing she is ejoying in nice place with her lover!!

So do we have any sort of update to your issue ?
Everyone has advice and experiences, thats the beauty of this lifestyle, different people have different things that work for them.
Bottom line is, though there is the mutual respect and love of a marriage, once you agree to this lifestyle with her, you now give up your right to control what happens. Be happy she is even having him ask you. Yes both must agree on what happens, but you will find if you take a more submissive approach to this and let her control this, the happier and more fulfilled you will find yourself..and old saying of Happy Wife-Happy Life.
Now we started out mutually agreeing to situations until she reached her comfort level and got me more used to it. I did ask her for years to try it, when she finally did, she wondered why she resisted all those years. She also decided for this to work best, I would need to be in chastity during. You should be happy her lover asked you and didn’t just tell you what would happen. Mine has never done a weekend away, but the closest we came was she invited him to join us for a vacation for a week, he met us mid week as he had work, we had reserved a second room at a hotel next to ours for his arrival. He texted when he checked in and met us for dinner, we went to the bar for drinks after, and I was the third wheel as they drank, laughed, made out. At end of nite we went to our room, she packed an overnite bag, and left with him to his room and stayed with him most of the week only coming back for clothes and make up and to make sure I was ok and chastity was still locked. After we got home, she told me that he would tell me when they would be getting together..it wasn’t easy, but you eventually get used to it and we have been happily married all this time

I think as so many do on this thread, it is your wife’s choice. Yes you should all discuss it but at the end of the day, it’s her choice. We chose to be a cuckold husband, we agreed to it and know that our wife or GF are going to be coupling with another guy instead of us, whether she does it in the matrimonial bed or at his house, it makes no difference, she’s still having his cock instead of our tiny penis and they should share intimate and non intimate time together, it’s not just about coupling, I think that the love that my wife shares with her boyfriend is special and I encourage her/ them to be open about it. If they want a weekend getaway, then they should have it. He is her sexual partner, not you, they should have some alone time to bond, not only as a sexual couple but as lovers as well. After all, HE is the Alpha male and superior to us Beta males. Plus, the excitement of knowing that they are doing other things together, other than sex is so thrilling, floods of different emotions fill me when my wife does things like this. He is her lover and they should both be able to be emotionally and physically together. Talk to them both and get everything in the open, it is worth the effort, I promise you. My wife’s boyfriend often takes her out for a date night, even with no sex involved, he is an important part of her and my life and, be that for a few hours while they are coupling or for a whole weekend, they should have their freedom to strengthen their love for each other.

What the Mrs wants and feels comfortable with is what should control. After I have met a couple I let them know rather early on that is how I plan to approach the relationship unless they make it clear otherwise.

What is the point of even being married or in a relationship if you send her off to spend emotional and physical time with her lover ?
Cuckolding is something that should be shared and enjoyed by both, otherwise sending her for weekends and overnites is just condoned cheating..not cuckolding.
Unfortunately I see so many men with such low self esteem about themselves mentally or physically, they try and justify being a cuckold.
There is so much more to todays modern cuckolding, but allowing her an emotional attachment & relationship with the lover is never a good thing. One day he will want her all for himself..or he could one day walk away from her to pursue his own relationship and think of the devastation she will face. Its best to keep feelings of love out of this fetish and keep it simply a sexual one that both participate in.
Just my opinion from a lifetime of experience on both ends of it

As all have said above communication with your wife and you is key! You need to ask yourself a few questions.
1 what did you feel when he asked you the question? What was your gut instinct and feelings? Were you hurt, upset, mad, worried, jealous,?
2. If you felt negative feelings how long did they last and were you able to think them through rationally?
3. Has he presented this to your wife already? How does she feel about it?
And most of all
What do you and her feel about it as a couple? Has this been discussed before?

@cuckofMistress I don’t know why but your comments seem so negative. We all endure and enjoy cuckolding in our own ways. What works for you may not for others. There is no set in stone rule or definitions of. How this is to be enjoyed and worked into each relationship. I totally enjoy My Love going out on her own and coming home full of stories. The time away is irrelevant to me. It’s about the actions and the stories. The feelings and emotions.

When Cathy first met her current boyfriend things went so well that they often asked to go away for weekends not long after getting to know each other, but I wasn’t comfortable with that. After the second time they asked I took the time to think and realized that in order for this to work Cathy needed to be trusted to do the right thing yet still have the sex she deserved. I decided to go with them on a couple trips and stayed in another room or motel and left them alone for the whole weekend(s), but Cathy would still text me or call me to let me know she was doing fine and having the time of her life with her new lover. After two trips I decided that even though I wasn’t in the room or near them I was still being overbearing and made the decision to let them go on their own since he proved himself to be a gentleman and always kept her safe and happy. Now more than a year later he takes her on trips to Vegas and Mexico and they tell everyone they are married but she kept her maiden name instead of his. He will even send me pics and short videos of his cock deep in her hot married pussy just to keep me happy and of course to let me know who owns her pussy. You’ll learn to let go and trust both of them eventually, just remember that it’s your wife who’s the important one and she’s the reason you’re a cuckold. Just my look on this lol. Enjoy the lifestyle to the fullest 🙂

Should you agree…why wouldn’t you? My wife does stay over with her lover and he has stayed over without me there. I have put them up in hotels on trips as well. Other guys she has been with have let me stay over in the spare room sometimes as well. In reality this relationship is about you and your wife. I would think most cuck-minded guys would want there wife to be happy.

In my opinion, it is very important that the female should have some alone time with her lover/boyfriend. Her relationship with him is not just about the sex, it’s about the love bond that they have developed. It’s he, who she has chosen to give her body to, and as I said, it’s not just about sex.
My wife often ( At least 3 night’s per week) goes on date nights with her boyfriend, often when no sex is involved. They love each other and she tells me that the love she feels for him is way more than the love she has for me now. She would never leave me for him but he is her #1.
As cuckold husbands, we devote our lives to making sure that our significant other is happy and enjoys a good sexual relationship with her lover and if that means them spending some alone time together, then so be it.
As cuckold husbands we know and accept that we can no longer fill her sexual desires and needs, that’s why she went elsewhere to begin with.
Accept the fact that she wants to spend alone time with him and welcome it and enjoy the love that they are building together.

I agree let them enjoy the time and bond over a weekend.

Cuckolding holds many forms for different couples. Just because Your wife spends time alone with Her Lover, be that just having sex, or building an emotional and sexual relationship, it does not mean it cannot be shared in the retelling on Her return. 70% of dates my Hotwife has had have been away from home on weekends away with Her Lover where I act as airport driver and home cuck, experiencing the pain of cuckolding which is brought to a climax on Her return. Choose what works for You both, indeed you will not know if this is for you until you try it, and only then will you both know.

of course you should agree. when my lady decides to see her bulls it is not of my concern we have already established my weak penis can neither satisfy her nor compete with her bulls so it should not be up to the cuck

My wife’s Bull used to visit her at our home every Sunday night and Friday night, on the way to work from home and back home again. If I was away on business she would invite him to stay, copying me on the messages. So I would know that while I was in a dreary hotel somewhere they would be having sex in the master bedroom. That’s the life of a cuckold, so I think you should let her visit him and they can enjoy their nights of passion, leaving you to masturbate if you’re not caged, or in frustration if you are.

Everyone customizes how they want to incorporate cuckolding into their marriage. For us its icing on the cake and compliments our relationship and that he wants to see me happy and fulfilled. He is older so sex is not as frequent, thus this gives me added fun that I need.
I have no desire to go out on dates or go away for weekends with a lover. My joy is watching my husbands pain of knowing he can’t fulfill what I need and that I am the one in control, and he has no choice but to serve. I do get a perverted thrill having him there sucking on my toes as I make out with a lover, I do tend to enjoy Dom males as long as they respect that I am a Domme as well, and we both have my husband serve us. I just love the look of total submission in his eyes having to be beneath another man and being denied his access to me. He is never allowed to play with himself or get an erection during, and sometimes I use chastity to enforce this. I also get a thrill setting up a play date and denying my husband any pleasure for a week before and a week after the playdate.
Until this covid-19 threw a monkey wrench into things so no play since, and I had planned an extensive cuckolding on his birthday in a month , we will now have to wait.
All in all, I enjoy the humiliation and worthlessness he feels while being a cuck, and that makes me very excited, especially when I have him do clean up after my lover leaves

Too many people have no idea how fun and exciting this type of play can be and both can get something out of it.
Unfortunately its difficult to “encourage” someone into this, especially if they have no inclinations at all. Most who are comfortable with this have the experince of being swingers at one time.
But your sheer torture and lamenting at not being able to guide here is exquisite..if only she knew ~!

Hi Mistress C

Thank you for your kind response.

You’re absolutely right, this is sheet torture for me. She has no idea ho badly I want this and how pleasurable this can be for her.

I guess this is not meant to be foe us! 🙁

PS. Hope you are your husband are both well during this quarantine. No doubt, you are both lucky to have each other!

Thank you Yes this quarantine has put a kink into our play, so when things are back to normal, there is a lot of fun that needs to be had

Mistress C, how do you control your cucks erection if he’s not in chastity?

Fist off he knows that would displease me and would lead to him maybe being hooded and sensory deprivation next time, or I have toys that would make him so sore just before, even a thought of an erection would be painful. I also have what I call a Tube of Hell that has nasty pointy spikes inside and if he gets erect, they would stab down his erection, or what I use most of the time, simple rope pulling his cock and balls back and up behind him

Thanks Mistress C – that sounds like good tools to keep him under control

I don’t want to hijack the original posting. Do to the poster, if she wants to go away with her bull, thats up to her if you have agreed to be her cuckold. Thats why before indulging in things like this, always have ground rules in place.
But isn’t just so much fun waiting for her at airport knowing she is coming home very used and fulfilled ?

I am in a similar situation as Mistress C’s cuck . My wife makes the decisions as to who she has sex with and when and how often. She does let me know when she won’t be home so I do not worry that she has had an accident. Otherwise, for me it is to just obey and be happy and satisfied in my obedience. The goal is for her to be hapay and satisfied, and when she is then so am I.

Bulls Prospective: I’m poly and both of the HW that I see, I love and they love me. We have know each other for a long time and I have spent time with both of their families. I have had weekends alone over the years and we have enjoyed them. However, I get more out of the relationship when cuck boi is participating in some form. Listening at the door, being next door, on the phone, in the closet or just waiting downstairs to take her home. I get off sexually, knowing I’m taking his wife, filling her with MY sperm, telling me she loves me and sending her home til next month. All the while, cuck boi listens and understands and loves me for it too.

Robert, sounds like you found an ideal way to include everyone

I did! I think its important to include everyone. I like being watched by hubby while inside his wife. I look him in the eye when I push deep into the Mrs. and she lets out a yelp. Gets me off. I love it!

When I first started, I felt guilty enjoying myself, didn’t want to hurt him by having an orgasm from someone else’e penis, but after a while I found someone who I had chemistry with, and after that it was “shut up and sit in the corner and feel blessed I’m allowing you to see this”
The trick is finding a lover who understands the dynamics of the fetish/lifestyle and who is not intimidated by being watched and not having a failure to launch because of it.
Can’t wait for things to get back to some sort of normal and have some fun