Hard to find someone

Good question. My wife and I have been swingers for 9 years and there are a number of swinger websites out there. These sites are packed with single guys, and some cheating married guys, looking for couples and women to play with. Read thru some of their profiles and find a few that seem promising. You can chat with them online, see if they seem to meet your desires. Meet for a drink to make sure they are really what they seemed to be.

AdultFriendFinder is a huge such site, I’m sure there are other local such sites in your area. We have found several great guys this way who love coming over to fuck my wife, or take her out somewhere else. Good luck!

Tony

Hi,

Adult Friend Finder was good years ago. But I’ve been a member since 2005 and the last actual date I got from this site was in 2008. The same holds true for the Ashley Madison site. All they want is your money and most of the pictures of people on both sites have been there for many years!! I had two dates using the Craigslist personals back in 2015 but the personals was removed awhile back. I have found no other sites to use for the purposes of finding friends with benefits. I am married with a non-sexual marriage since 1999. My wife ~ married 30 years now ~ has a bi-polar type disease and does not want sexual intercourse anymore!! Her doctors give her the medicines to stay stable but they can’t help us with the sexual aspects of this mental disease. Yes it is very hurtful but I love her dearly so I won’t leave her. Masterbation when I’m alone is my sex life now and I just turned 69 years old. I wish you well!!!

Almost all of the couples I’ve been a bull for are ones I’ve known in real life circles. In a couple cases I was introduced.

Many of them had ways of subtly gauging interest from people by raising the topic of cheating and seeing how the person reacted. Like talking about how someone’s wife cheated on him and saying “I’d never cheat with someone else’s wife” and seeing if the other guy agreed or was non-committal (or directly disagreed). Of course, this goes along with knowing that the guy is a good person. This is actually the way my first time being invited into someone else’s marriage happened – it was an older couple and the guy was ostensibly chatting with me “about work topics” but got started chatting “casually.” It was confusing at first because I was young and inexperienced but I caught on quickly and it introduced me to a special role in my life helping many couples reach satisfaction!

You might try Fetlife – at least there is some conversation there… and OK Cupid if you put in or search for the right key words – at least a while back it worked.
Don’t discount people you know… just pic someone you like and who you feel would be discreet. Try to talk to people directly on boards like this and ask if they are within your area if you like them. And be open minded – don’t insist on a 24.5 year old that is 6’2.5 inches, 185 lbs no more or less…. go for the 69 year old if he seems nice… 🙂 I have a sub since 2004 and when I started with her it was not because she was “Hot” but because it would be different and entertain me for a while as I kept looking for that centerfold. Well we turned out to be a great personality match. We are still together, though looking for another to help keep me satisfied (she is too busy with family stuff lately.) So, be willing to bend a little in requirements.
It is just as hard to find someone from the bull side – I’ve met a couple women over a few years, one married but not telling hubby, one single with a kid… Distance, time and family can really get in the way of a continuing relationship. I recommend against the one night bar stands due to STDs, even with rubbers. Sounds like you are also not going for the short term but are looking for a relationship… you can only succeed if you keep trying.