Hello All, Looking for Newbie Advice!

I recently found this site and simply want to say how much I have enjoyed alot of the posts here and the advice that I have gleaned from the various reference sites and from a few emails I have had with Luvr.

I guess you all deserve a bit of background first, as I am seeking whatever advice or commentary you may have to bring my marriage to the level that some of you now enjoy. This is our second marriage, my wife is roughly 10 years younger than me and is, by all accounts, a strikingly beautiful woman with the body of a 20 year old.  She had a very active and diverse sex life before we me, although never that involved this or more than one party at a time.  I dabbled slightly in swinging with my ex and did have a few encounters with other couples.   After thinking of that life style, some years later, I realized that the most compelling and sexual aspect of swinging, to me, was watching my ex with another.  It never struck me that way at the time, but looking back at it now, I know that to e true. It was, very very hot.

Four years into my current relationship (married for two) and I suggested bringing in another man for her pleasure.  I made every mistake in the book.  Telling her I wanted to see her fuck another guy, how hot it would be etc.  Course, she reacted as expected, synical, pissed off and just disoriented. As time has progressed, I have gotten smarter, have introduced her to cuckold porn, and have role played with her on occasions where she has certainly, definitely gotten off on the fantasy.  I could give details, but see my post in the strap on blog on this site and you will see what I mean.

In any event, I think we are beyond the point where she initially felt threatened, that she is beginning to understand the attraction that I have to this and is even starting to enjoy the idea, the concept and is sexually stimulated when we play it out with toys, dirty talk, etc.

Oddly enough, having vome this far, we have yet to really discuss the whole concept of cuckoldry and hotwives.  It is a topic that I have intentionally not gone into in too much detail, for fear, I guess, that she will again get upset or somehow be turned off.  So that having been said, I know communication is the key, I have followed some of Luvr's other advice (make sure she knows, this is not an excuse for me to be with another woman, I am not testing her fidelity, etc. etc.)

So the question I have for others is how did you all take it to the next level?  If you used Luvr's pdf on Introduction to Hotwifes, which he suggested I do, at what point do you give it to your wife?  Any good, bad, or ugly experiences by those here that used that tool?

I guess any suggestions would be helpful.  Drop a response when you can and thanks to all on here for your help and assistance!