Is she really ready to cuck you?

Much as would be cuckolds may fantasise, and even persuade their wives to share those fantasies, only a relatively few wives will actually cuck their husbands. From amongst those that do, only a percentage again will make this a lifestyle thing. Its that rare synergy of needs, hers and his in union and of course then there is the little matter of finding the right bull. But let’s go back to basics and some of the conversations that couples may well have had that signal a greater chance that she will find another guy to service her. These are not sure fire conversations, but I believe that they do bode well for at least a trial of the lifestyle.

The teasing conversation
Wives who are more likely to cuck you are those that haven’t forgotten their attractiveness to other men. They still value their sex appeal and don’t see themselves as ‘past the market’. So its likely that she has flirted a little in front of you, perhaps teased you about the attractiveness of another man. If you’ve drink a bit together she might even ask if you will ask him to fuck her (right then its not meant, but the taunt is a thrill for her). What is key about this conversation is that you have shown all the right signals, that you will respectfully stand back and let nature take its course, that she is free to fuck a guy. Wives may tease like this a very long while-it may become a protracted (and at times frustrating ante chamber to the cuckold realm) but you will have calmly shown your conviction-that this would really be sexy and that you adore her.

The testing loyalty conversation
It seems counter intuitive to many women that you really mean she can fuck around and that you will remain completely loyal. Many women think that men are hard wired to play around and of course she may wonder whether your invite to the lifestyle is an excuse to begin an open marriage. So she watches how you react to other attractive women. She might even ask a friend to flirt with you to test things out. You don’t labour the point, but calmly assure her that you are devoted to her and her desires. You in fact engineer social situations, memberships of clubs where there are more men, and where she can be turned on by them. You hand over the funds for her to dress to the nines. A good wardrobe is a needful thing-not an indulgent one!

The patience conversation
Candidly, if you are more turned on by voyeuristic sex, by seeing her act like a whore, then you won’t pass go on this one. Your need for action, self satisfaction will outpace things and then all your frustrations and irritations will show. If you are a real cuck in the making, then you are into surrendering to her. She is already your mistress and sets the sexual tempo. If she choses to tease you for the remainder of your days, to drive you and other men crazy as a cock tease, then her will is your command. You will say things when she is ready-perhaps she has remarked how well endowed an athlete is on the TV. Perhaps you have watched a sexy movie at the theatre-you go down on her and say that tonight the pleasures are all hers. She may fantasize as she wishes and either tell you or not as she wishes. Your resolve will be tested again and again- don’t be urgent. You accept this is about if she choses to act as well as about when. What is signalled is your unquestioning devotion.

The superiority or sexual inadequacies conversation
Cuckolding is a loving, but it is not a ‘nice’ lifestyle. It is about the hotwife having her needs met first and the husband sublimating his desires to hers. So don’t kid yourself. If you talk calmly about your physical or performance inadequacies and she quietly accepts that- she doesn’t try to instantly reassure you, then that is promising. This is a woman who accepts that she will judge a man-that she is the arbiter of good sex. Alternatively, there may be conversation of how superior she is, she may be better bred, better educated, earn the bigger pay check and with that you quietly signal goes authority. She makes the rules, insists on the rights within a loving but necessarily unequal relationship. This conversation sometimes leads to deeper conversations, about success and marriage, about the search for the balance that works. Its not 50/50 is it-a cuck needs her to be 80/20 on this at least. To have her take charge.

The role playing conversation
Cuckold lifestyle couples have often extensively rehearsed the lifestyle before they have turned things real. They explore denial, they examine discipline, and humiliation. That all begins with playful conversations. Shall we go to the party and see whether you can openly submit to me, be my little pet? Its from one of these playful test outs that some wive’s fuck another guy for real and the lifestyle bursts through your door.

How was that? conversation
That’s when this conversation is key. If you don’t talk about why that was sexy, what it did to your psyche, your nerves, your sense of sex, then things get shut down and the possibilities wither. This was something we tried and well…its wasn’t our thing OK? Except it is not OK. At least one of you wanted to talk about it.