Should I Let Them Have Fun Without Me?

How long have they been lovers? If it’s been a fair bit of time, give them their alone time, they deserve that. As a woman I can attest to not liking it when my cuckold husband is in the same room as me and my lover. I even prefer that he’s not in the house at all if possible. Having alone time with my lover allows me to let myself go, give myself completely to a much better lover than Jerry, without having those little thoughts that I’m aware of being watched or listened to. If you love her and feel that she truly deserves to have a lover, then she must also deserve her time with him alone. This lifestyle is somewhat for the cuckold but in reality, it’s mainly for the desires and needs of the cuckold’s wife.

you have to . we all seek wife pleasure so let her do it

Finding the right partner is always a challenge, so when you’ve got one who she really enjoys (and you’re both comfortable with), it’s worth making it work even if the setup isn’t perfect right now. There’s rarely a “perfect” match in every way, scheduling conflicts or preferences are normal.

Many couples start with the husband always present and gradually open up to solo dates, and they often find it adds even more excitement and closeness to their marriage. It’s completely common to meet some partners for couple-play only, while others end up being more for solo dates for her. That variety can be part of the lifestyle.
You can still feel involved through photos, audio clips, videos she takes for you, or her coming home and recounting every detail.

As you said yourself, after such a long time without intimacy, she now needs and deserves the pleasure a well-endowed lover can give her, something you’ve acknowledged you can’t provide. Keep looking for more flexible partners in parallel, but don’t pass up good chemistry over scheduling alone. Give the weekday solo meets a try, you might be surprised how hot it becomes for you too. But of course communication is the most important, always speak up if it doesn’t feel right and adapt. Good luck!

I have been a cuckold husband for years, although I never thought much about that name tag, I just did what felt good to me. I remember the first night my wife had sex with the man who would become her lover for the next decade. For the purpose of this discussion, I will refer to him as “Larry”. When we first met, Larry was a coworker of mine. He and his wife were our age. Actually Larry was five years older than my wife. We sometimes went out together to dance and have a few drinks. Larry’s wife was a very vanilla sort of woman. She was a nice person but not sensual at all, maybe even a little on the butch side. My wife is and has always been the exact opposite. She is attractive, at that time, she had a fantastic body and she is a very sensual woman. She always enjoyed sex and I noticed that she enjoyed sexually teasing Larry. I remember this night that we had been out dancing and having a good time. It was close to midnight when we left the club. We all went in Larry’s car so we had to return to their house to get our car. Larry’s wife had way too much to drink and when we got to their house, she went straight to bed. Larry suggested we should spend the night in their guestroom. My wife thought that was a good idea. We went to the bedroom. Larry walked thru the den and into the kitchen.
I had one drink too many and I have to confess, I was ready to sleep. We got undressed, naked and I could tell my wife was ready to play. She reached over, started stroking my cock and then said, “I want to fuck Larry tonight”. I cant say I was surprised. I watched her slow dance with him twice and I saw them pressing against each other. She has done this with me many times so I knew exactly what was happening. I could tell she was serious, she really wanted to fuck Larry. There was something I liked about the idea and maybe it was the alcohol but I said OK. I watched her walk naked from our bedroom into the kitchen. After about ten minutes, I quietly got up and looked into the den. I could hear them still in the kitchen but then I saw them come into the den to the couch. I watched my wife helping Larry get undressed. I couldn’t move. It’s hard to explain but watching my naked wife helping Larry remove his clothes caused my adrenaline to spike. Larry sat down and my wife removed his pants. I watched her lean forward and she started sucking his cock. I heard Larry groan. I saw her climb into his lap, I watched her guide his cock and I watched as she started fucking him. This was probably the most compelling thing I have ever experienced. Larry rolled my wife onto her back. He placed her legs up on his shoulders and he started fucking her slowly. I could hear my wife and I could tell she was having an orgasm. I knew that sound well. Larry started fucking her much faster and then I heard him groan. I knew that sound and I knew he was cumming inside her. I didn’t want them to see me so I quietly got back into bed.

When we got home, my wife and I talked about what happened. She smiled and told me she liked being able to have sex with Larry and she liked that I was OK with it. She asked if I would be OK with her getting with him again and I said yes. We set some basic ground rules. I was ready to share her sexually but if Larry was looking for more, he would have to move on. We agreed.

About six moths later, Larry and his wife divorced. I never knew the grounds and I never asked. My wife told me that their marriage was in trouble before we ever met. It was now obvious that my wife had become Larry’s primary source for sex. Larry had an apartment so he and my wife were able to meet in privacy.

My wife liked having two men to satisfy her sexual needs and she enjoyed being able to share her experience with me. I always enjoyed hearing about it.
Larry obviously knew I was aware of his sexual relationship with my wife and we respected each other’s privacy. I never had a desire to be present with them although I have to admit, I did enjoy watching them that first time.

Lola has never really been comfortable putting on a show and gets more of a kick when she is alone with a lover. Just tonight, the starts of something new have occured, all instigated and managed for what she needs from it. Some parts of these happenings are shared with me, much to my degradation and shame, but lots of what they do is for them. He is aware of me and she’s told him why she needs to do what she is doing. Juxtaposed this with how we started in cuckolding, with me trying to run things and pestering etc. Well, I know what she much prefers. And that power for her is the biggest cuck kick of all.
Peace

Quick update – I have been told I will never see them together, that what they have is between them and he will not bother to speak to me.

Thanks for responding, Cathy.
It was he who made the first move on her and while she explained after a while that she had sexual freedom because of my own inadequacies, he found the arrangement something he couldn’t handle and told her it would be an affair between them and refused to discuss even having a conversation with me. Because she wants him so much, she is going along with this approach and not involving me, other than to say if she is meeting him. She shares very little and is putting what she wants with him and his feelings above what we have as a married couple of 26 years. I am really trying to be on board with it for her sake. Difficult.

Thanks for the supportive message. I had got myself into a state over not supporting her enough!
We aren’t new exactly as you know. 14 years as a cuck couple. The reason we agreed to her sexual freedom, indeed it was me who suggested it, was because she was like you Cathy and didn’t want to have her cuck present. But. What we didn’t agree to was my total exclusion.
Yet why do I feel like a total c445t if I raise an objection? Well, I guess it is obvious. I cannot do what he does.
I have tears about it. And of course, I have turn ons about it too.
As for watching them, I have never ever watched out ever with her. I hate not trusting her. Her being with a guy that we had chatted about etc was all part of it.
Much love.
PS Despite this latest experience, I still maintain that in the right place, cuckolding can be the best solution