Reply To: diabeties and becoming a cuck

1. Actually, I’m not sure that keeping it hidden from her children is the right way to go. For starters, if they don’t know you have complications from diabetes, they’re going to know soon enough, and they should be able to consider both the health lessons as well as alternative means of meeting the needs of a partner/spouse in case of certain diseases that affect sex and intimacy.

2. It is true that diet and exercise (i.e. lifestyle in terms of health) modifications can reverse diabetes and most of its effects, but the fact of the matter is that relatively few (i.e. only a minority of) patients ever go from diabetes/hyperglycemia back to normal health. I’m not telling you to give up here, but you need to be realistic about long-term likelihoods. Importantly, even if you recover your health, once you’ve opened your relationship like this it’s very unlikely that it’ll ever go back to what it was before. This is not a “for now” thing; you have to brace for (or embrace) the possibility that this is likely a permanent alteration to your relationship. My advice in that regard is to embrace it and enjoy it for what it is. In the event that your health is recovered in the future, this change may actually result in great improvements in your intimacy with your wife.

3. Ok, you got someone who’s in the right mindset and is empathetic to your situation. That’s great – it sounds like that basically checks most of the boxes.

Best of luck to you both, and most importantly, have fun with it!