Reply To: My husband really wants this but I have some questions first

We’ve discussed everything A LOT but there are things we can’t know until it happens. I don’t want the burden of expectation or anticipation while I look for a guy and decide if he’s right for what we want. I understand being secretive could backfire on me though so I’m glad it was brought up. I’m just trying to do this the best way possible and avoid first time mistakes

I’ve asked him for his boundaries and he says he doesn’t have any other than him being present. I wish he had more guidelines for me to follow but he says he wants me to enjoy it and let me and the new guy have sex the way we want. That he is a mere observer. Is he setting himself up for failure by being so vague? Are there boundaries I should set that are common amongst this lifestyle that we don’t know about?