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    • #19313
      Natnextdoor

        My husband and I have been married for almost three years. I know he’s had a cuckolding fetish for a long time which we have discussed many times. I was initially very dismissive thinking he just wants a quid-pro-quo threesome with another girl. That doesn’t seem to be the case at all.

        I’m seriously considering trying this for him. So much so that I made an account on a hookup site geared toward this lifestyle. After many messages (and unsolicited dick pics), I think I found a guy I’m interested in. We’ve been messaging back and forth via the website (just small talk and expectations) and he included a picture of his face instead of penis.

        *Quick side note, he does have naked pictures on his profile and they do not disappoint. Very well endowed and fit body.

        I set a date to meet him at a bar to make sure I like him in person.

        So, my husband doesn’t know I’m on the site and going to meet a guy. I don’t like the initial secrecy but here’s why I’m doing it this way.

        My husband says he doesn’t care what guy we use. He wants me to be comfortable and to decide on the gentleman (since it’s my body he’ll be inside of). He also wants a guy with a big dick. Those are his wants.

        I think we should use a stranger in case we don’t like it. I don’t hate the idea of a big dick at all so I passively agreed with hubby so as not to appear eager. Husband is average at best so it’s been awhile since I’ve experienced a large man. I need to be attracted to the guy and comfortable with his personality to do this.

        At least for the fist time, I don’t want to try picking up just anyone (which is why I want to meet the online guy). Too many bad lays and weirdos out there. If I have a bad first experience, I’ll be out on the whole idea of cuckoldry.

        My plan is to meet the online guy, and then take my husband out the next weekend. I tell him I have a surprise for him when online guy arrives and joins us for drinks, then inevitably dirty dirty sex.

        My question is whether or not all I’ve said sounds like a good idea? I defer to the expertise of all of you to tell me if I’m doing anything wrong, overlooking something, or am the greatest wife ever for making this happen for my voyeuristic husband?

      • #19315
        Anonymous

          I think it is absolutely correct way. Your husband is a lucky guy having such a woman.

        • #19316
          Logan

            A stranger is definitely a good idea. If you have never done this before I’d proceed with caution taking matters that far into your own hands when starting up. If you value your marriage that is. Your husband is new to this too and may feel betrayed if he isn’t intimately involved in your initial experiences. Ultimately the decision is yours and you know your husband and relationship better than anyone posting on a forum, but from experience I would recommend discussing the ground rules of opening up your marriage further and thinking through this a little more before diving off the cliff blind folded.

          • #19320
            Natnextdoor

              We’ve discussed everything A LOT but there are things we can’t know until it happens. I don’t want the burden of expectation or anticipation while I look for a guy and decide if he’s right for what we want. I understand being secretive could backfire on me though so I’m glad it was brought up. I’m just trying to do this the best way possible and avoid first time mistakes

              I’ve asked him for his boundaries and he says he doesn’t have any other than him being present. I wish he had more guidelines for me to follow but he says he wants me to enjoy it and let me and the new guy have sex the way we want. That he is a mere observer. Is he setting himself up for failure by being so vague? Are there boundaries I should set that are common amongst this lifestyle that we don’t know about?

            • #19344
              MatureMUK

                with a stranger can be best way of seeing if we want to explore lifestyle further .many do first even on vacation so can leave it all behind if unhappy about outcome or feeling used etc afterwards or not what expected.
                be aware if we start any sexual activity and its not a one off, its inevitable an emotional bond will form with the bull and wife. as long as all open and communication is good. no problems ought to arise. difficulties can occur if we get too involved and we suffer the ratchet effect!
                yes a bigger dick is always for most women more satisfying .be careful we don’t push husband aside sexually unless thats where he naturally wants to be ( common in fact ) set rules such as condom always unless we do find we have a ltd and can trust a guy. being on pill is a god idea as accidents do occur as well as getting carried away in heat of moment.
                there are pros and cons of this scene . discretion is normally a must though some do enjoy a bull openly dating a wife.. everybody will have own aspirations. needs. and expectations. where it works ..it can significantly enhance our life .good luck

              • #19349
                Natnextdoor

                  I took people’s advice and told my husband what I have planned. It felt dishonest and I don’t want to get off on the wrong foot. I was a little afraid to tell him I’ve been talking to guys online but he was very excited and appreciated I took his wants seriously and am moving forward with it. He’s fine letting me handle the account to meet guys and wants to come with me to meet the guy I’ve been talking too. So, there’s the update. Pretty exciting huh?!

                • #19359
                  Andre

                    good on you diffintley the right way open and honest is the best way in this lifestyle and if youy follow that you can experience so much pleasure from it and the benifits to your relationship are endless good luck your beuatiful and your husband is a lucky man

                    • #19368
                      Natnextdoor

                        Thank you that’s very sweet of you to say!

                    • #19369
                      Natnextdoor

                        Well, we got stood up! My husband and I sat at the bar waiting but the online guy was a no show. Also didn’t reply to my texts. What the fuck?! Why not just say you’ve had a change of heart?! Aghhhh! I remember now why I hated dating so much! I mean, a woman is saying flat out “I want commitment free sex please” and the guy doesn’t show? Doesn’t that defy natural male law or something?! Okay rant over.

                        I told the guy earlier this week about the slight change in plans in that my husband will be joining us. I didn’t think it would be a big deal since he’ll for sure be there for the sex. We were just meeting for drinks last night so I don’t see the big deal but maybe that scared him off? I don’t get it. Or maybe it’s me.

                      • #19403
                        Maria

                          Just curious. Does the online guy in this lifestyle also?

                          • #19429
                            Natnextdoor

                              He’d done this once before and wants to get back into it. Apparently not since he was a no show. He actually text the other day with a bs excuse about leaving his phone at work and going to the wrong place because he couldn’t remember the name and thinking we stood him up blah blah blah. I kindly reminded him that his read receipts are on so I know he saw the multiple texts we sent throughout the night. Haven’t heard from him since!

                          • #20014
                            Anonymous

                              I know that can be very frustrating to be stood up like that, but do not give up, try looking for someone else that may be more reliable. Good luck to you.

                            • #20224
                              Gracie

                                No shows happens a fair amount of time. Always have more than one going on at once so that when a guy doesn’t show one night maybe the next night another guy does show.

                                Also, to ensure a higher rate of guys showing up, get a burner (prepaid) phone and talk to the guy on the phone before meeting. If he won’t talk on the phone, he also won;t show up in person. Never give out personal ID information online or on the phone until after you have met him several times.

                                Gracie: Chick with a Dick

                              • #21514
                                Keels

                                  Reading your story and comments and I was wondering as a newbie wife to This if you ever found a man and how was things after with you and your husband? I worry even tho he wants this that after he will see me difftent. X

                                • #21519
                                  Gracie

                                    Keels, I am not sure whose story and comments you are referring to, but I will try to answer anyway. It is inevitable that you both will see things differently after you cuck him. And no, that does NOT mean it will be a negative thing. More often than not, it is a very positive thing.

                                    In my case, I asked my wife to fuck other guys, and when she did, I got much more than I asked for. But it turned out to be a very positive thing. I love her, she loves me, we both express it often. I truly enjoy watching her with black men. I LOVE her massive orgasms that I was never able to give her. She is much more fulfilled, and that means a lot to me.

                                  • #29854
                                    Anonymous

                                      Omg that sounds very very hot and perfect way to start your journey. You have all bases covered with this scenario as if u dont like u keep the serach if u do then he will get a huge surprise and will appriciate your effort and its going along with the role play. My thing is start off how u feel comfortable i was happy with 3somes then moved to single play with my bull type scenario always on my terms and my partners together.

                                    • #29856
                                      Anonymous

                                        How did you go Natnextdoor ? This is an old post are you still on ?

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