Reply To: devastating sense of guilt

If your husband truly loves you, he absolutely should want you to be and feel fulfilled in every possible way. He certainly understands that he is not providing that fulfillment for you sexually, as he is open to cuckolding. He just needs to be convinced that this particular partner is the key to unlocking that satisfaction for you.

It should not be that difficult to have a lie-down in bed with him where you explain that you do want more sexual satisfaction in your life and want to reopen the discussion about cuckolding. Explain that although you know he said it should be with a “stranger”, you never really were drawn that way because you need not just some initial attraction and wham-bam sex, but a bit of time to allow the attraction to grow to feel true satisfaction and you do not get that with a stranger far away from your everyday life. Then ask him “don’t you want me to be sexually fulfilled?” and ask if maybe he would be willing to rethink the stranger requirement.

If you are stroking his dick while you have this discussion, there is an excellent chance that it will be rock hard and leaky by this point in the conversation. You can point that out, and say that his “truth detector” seems to agree that you should be able to date people other than strangers if you are attracted to them. He will have a very “hard” time disagreeing.

Then you can suggest some men you know as potential partners, including this 32 year old hunk, and say you have found yourself sexually attracted to him lately. My guess is his dick will be ready to explode and you can easily get him to agree.

Good luck!