Re: A serious problem I face as a cuckold , please advise me

It could be worth going back to the beginning and asking very honestly and probably over a great meal, before a winter fire, exactly what is sexy for you both. You say that she has been dominant with you and seemed to excel at that. The question then arises, was she playing a good role or was this something deep rooted in her needs- to belittle you. I’ve offered a few points about this sort of issue in Luvr’s guides, but I do think (regrettably for I prefer them) women who get an instinctive buzz out of cuckolding and humiliating are fewer than those who like to be passive and simply be taken and perhaps even owned by another guy. If believe (but others tell me if I’m wrong), that the more common female fantasy is a submission one, even a rape one, where she is taken, used and completely abandoned to the lust that the alpha male evokes. It would be a surprise if this wasn’t the case, given that males have been socialised to be aggressive and females (for good or ill) to be passive.

If she is a deeply passive but sensual lady, then you are not I think going to make her an instinctive, as opposed to a play acting, dom. Many such ladies can learn to humiliate a bit, but its not truly instinctive. Cucks forget this when they focus on their driving need to be made a fool. She needs to submit, just like you need to submit. She may be very disappointed in you being who you are, but that may be because she hasn’t pondered so long on the complexity and the richness of sex. It may be that you have been asking her to come a long way towards your needs, rather than using your antenna as regards her needs. So the question then is, is there something that you could do to help her cuckold you which met that female passive need, and your need too? Can that something be the thing that will help her to go on wanting you in some regard, whilst also going with a guy who really knows how to handle her properly?

When I service a wife I sometimes find that it is the separation of contact- what I do with her pussy and what he is allowed to do that is important. This is the most intimate thing that goes on in her head, how she is different with the two men. I insist that the cuck is allowed lick only treats down there and that I do the fucking. Selfish, arrogant and erotic I know, but it saves confusion and for the passive wife it is deeply erotic too. She surrenders to me and I make her husband do that as well. But it isn’t a formula that in your situation works through well. Strange, oh so strange as it seems, you need to help her surrender to one of your desires too. She needs to feel blameless for all this lust that she evokes. So you need to tell her that you insist on licking sex, that this is your thing and how you like to use her. She is two men’s play thing. She won’t believe you at first, and you won’t believe yourself either, but you have to go for it I think. She needs to submit (argument one). If she is to remain interested in you then submission has to be some part of that too (argument two).

Now to the the falling in love bit. Its my guess and no more, that if she feels she is still submitting to you in some way, that the falling in love thing will be less of a risk. She may desperately want you to lead in some regard, and the burning urge to lick her wet sex out after a guy like me has filled it, could be that. Show her that her wayward habits evoke lust in you too-centred on oral pleasures which you adore. After that, I think you need to think together what sort of guy is right as her bull. Have the guys been younger, arrogant and less sophisticated in how they work with her mind? Have they played egoistic games that confuse her? My lot have a load to answer for? A mature, probably an older bull, who is consistent about how he wishes to take her, to enjoy her again and again, is probably the solution. That certainly ain’t going to be just mechanical. She needs to go out with him, to feel that she is his. Its such a buzz for the passive woman. But if he’s the right bull he rehearses the ideas that keep her centred in your marriage too. If i understand this sort of scenario happening I might say, ‘I want you to be a slut with him, have him lap it up from between your legs. You’re mine to gift and that’s what turns me on babe.’ You could say, ‘shit, that sounds like pass the parcel’, but perhaps that is where the female psyche is this time?

Anyway-too long a post, but I really hope that it helps you both. I really think that both passive and dom hotwives deserve regular, good sex. I really enjoy taking a hot wife, one who thrills at going with someone this direct about sex. Sometimes talking out the head stuff helps with that. Jezz