Re: Alpha Cucks

This is an interesting subject. I like to draw a distinction between sharing ones wife and with being a cuckold. I can only talk from personal experience here and don’t wish to draw too many conclusions with regard to evolutionary theory, the role of society etc. Though I did enjoy reading about Nigel’s thoughts and believe they need some more consideration. 

We have been married 36 years and a cuckold couple for 10 years. For seven of those my wife, sarah, has had a boyfriend whose name is Michael. For five of those years Michael lived with us, latterly (two years) now having his own house. This si for sound financial reasons of getting onto the property ladder! For all of those seven years Michael has shared our bed. I am submissive and so is Sarah.

We have four children and bringing them up became our focus and raison d’être in life. It took all our energy and love. When they grew up and left one by one we discovered a black-hole where our sex life should have been. Both submissive, though not realising it, and quite passive we were chasing our tails as it were. We experimented with threesomes. We experienced quite a few men and earlier in our marriage swapped partners a little. I had many opportunities to watch sarah with other men. Yes it was sexy but not intimate, romantic and certainly not cuckolding.

It was when we met a dominant man, not sarah’s present boyfriend, who picked up on and understood our submissiveness that our sex life and relationship took on a new dimension. We had structure and focus. Sarah responded in ways I hadn’t imagined possible and she became more dominant with me. In a sense her lovers dominance was channeled through sarah onto me. Sarah became a completely new sexual being, alive and vibrant. She also became more healthy having suffered from rheumatoid arthritis from an early age. Her symptoms began to ameliorate though not go away completely.

Whilst I’ve been denied sexual intercourse for seven years our relationship is more intimate, erotic and fulfilling than I imagined possible. Michael and Sarah are inclusive and keen to include me, my submission is a pleasure.

What I want to stress, though, it is not just sex. Our whole lives have changed. The relationship informs all aspects of who I am and my relationships, whether they be intimate with Sarah and Michael, or just friendships and work colleagues. Life has a direction and focus.

I doubt our relationship would work for many others. It is right for us. It bears out many of the ideas that Luvr talks about though is not conclusive in any sense. Physically I don’t have a small penis. Yes Michael is bigger than I am, but as Nigel says, sarah had decided on sex with Nigel before she saw his penis. She was turned on by his mind, natural assertiveness and dominance. I don’t have those same characteristics. Some might call me an alpha male at work. I have a high power, responsible job at a senior level and have a team beneath me. I often give presentations in front of hundreds of people and it doesn’t worry me. But I am submissive with Sarah and Michael.

To conclude I don’t think what contributors have presented here is cuckolding. It is one thing to enjoy watching your wife with another man and remain in control. It is completely another to have ones sexuality under the control of ones wife and her dominant boyfriend.