Re: Is there something I am not getting

Thanks Jezz

Yes the role of the cuckold and why he is as he is is the most fascinating and different thing about the entire area. The cuckoldress is easy as she is just taking nature as far as it goes.Why wouldn’t an attractive sexually active woman want to fuck an attractive sexually active man she is attracted to who also wants her. The same applies to the bull, it is quite simple at this level. The cuckold is the problem. Why would a man in love with and attracted to a woman he had made his wife want her to fuck other men. The thing is he doesn’t………………. I pause at that because why does he do this if he doesn’t need to. It seems a lot of cuckolds have a deep sense of inadequacy. If they have a small penis particularly when non erect this is quite easy. Even though size in terms of fit may not really matter, there is no doubting the experience of the larger penis between the legs and a smaller one must have some effect. The man with a very small non erect penis is not aware of his penis day to day, this may have an effect in respect to the brain signals flowing back and forwards from his unconscious to his conscious mind. the feature also effects his approach. Imagine the cuddling pre sex scene the undressing and so on. the woman is getting more and more aroused, she doesn’t know about his small penis. Then when the moment of penetration comes he is awkward he is 5 inches long maybe less, he has to get in really close If she lies flat backways he will slip out. There are a number of spontaneous movements he cannot do. Of course this applies to a huge amount of men who are not cuckolds, but lots of men live a life where little or no sex takes place, over time they have lost attraction for their wives or vice versa sex is no longer an issue. I would suggest a lot of men surpress sex because of their inadequacy and just presume their wives do also. Often a misplaced belief in the role of their religious faith helps as they become puritanical forcing the same on their unsuspecting and compliant wives. In fact a lot of male dominant domestic control may spring from basic perceived inadequacies.

The cuckold however does not wish to live a life devoid of sex in some sterile fashion where sexuality is intellectually disinfected from his life. He wants to be married to a hot woman, attractive. sexy, but he feels he cannot handle her when she goes down this route, and he may be correct. As my wife, who does cuckold me says, ” contrary to what you might think I don’t think about sex all the time” but when wither other man the sex will be intense not in terms of the action itself but in how she feels. I believe most women are pretty stable until aroused at which point they become much more intensely aroused than most men. It is at this point the cuckold fails badly. The bull understand the aroused woman and knows better what to do and has a package awaiting her which is just what she wants. She is intense, animal , aroused ecstatic and then it ends. After that she is normal and wants what every normal person wants nice home car food etc loves her kids all that. A small penis cuckold is just as good at pushing a lawnmower as a large cocked bull. Given almost any human interatctionsay for example a sales role , a derivitives trader an airline pilot a medical doctor, cock size will make no difference nor will sexual performance, because all these roles are rule governed and operate in the region of what Freud called the super ego the application to rules and regulations laid down they are purely thoughtful interactive processes. It is the very narrow region of male female sexual arousal where the cuckold is not so good.

The cuckold however is an amazing character in that he can maintain permanent sexual arousal whilst doing a normal and often very successful job. He is a man who can go to work in a cock cage and women’s knickers. How does he do it……………….. With some experience I can hazard a guess. The cuckold has mastered his own unconscious he has harnessed it for his own use he plays with it. The unconscious sends through a jealous thought which in the raw with the average man hits him like a dig in the testicles.Believe me I have experienced this whilst driving along absolutely normal to an appointment and bang…. my wife is with someone else, presume this is before I knew. I had maybe noticed something or she said something and boy was that feeling strong the heart rate went up and so on the adrenaline flowed fear set in fight or flight all that in one thought. These thoughts are as strong as if you had just lost your job or some other really traumatic issue. And what is this it is the realisation that your partner is having sex with someone else you are in some way inadequate. The cuckold manages to control these thoughts which is a huge achievement as unconscious ” do something about this ” thoughts are survival processes they are not meant to be ignored it is like trying to ignore toothache effectively in this case a tooth has decayed there is no real danger to long term health as the tooth is a sealed system generally it will not kill you in most cases it will just rot out and fall out eventually. However our bodies overcompensate with amazing serious pain. The same happens with jealousy. Loosing a partner to someone else is not the end of the world but for some it is literally. What is the answer for the rejected man. He could say screw this sex is a problem and become asexual hence no more bad feelings. The cuckold though wants his sex life he enjoys sex. In order that he do this he must control the strong unconscious feelings over which we have generally no control . How does he do it? Meaning is the answer, he gives the feelings a new meaning. The unconscious is driving him to all sorts of places usually negative and in the direction of hurting someone either himself or the other man or his wife. The unconscious generally has no meaning attached to it it is a survival instinct. The feeling will initially be bad as it arises out of the unconscious the ID as Freud described it. However the difference with the cuckold and a normal rejected man is what he does with the feeling when it hits the thinking part of his brain. I beleive this is called the reality principle . The Ego again as described by the great man will apply meaning to the feeling. If the feeling is really strong the ego will be over run and the feeling will go to the next stage the super ego. The super ego is the place where rules and regulations which have been socialised into us exist and which we have a general fear of breaking. Therefore most people will not harm their wife our lover as they could end up in prison and they know that, therefore they become depressed, inward harm themselves. They may take to alcohol drugs food etc. The cuckold however stops at the ego and transcribes the feeling into one with a new meaning. All his inadequacies are sexualised passing the feelings back and forth from the unconscious almost requesting more bad feelings as he has sexualised them all by erotic association. For example my first thought say when I noticed something maybe a glimpse of suspender on my wife as she was going out, something she does not normally wear and went unnoticed in the daily grind but registered in the brain as a ” something different” has occurred signal. This signal presents itself halfway through a long car drive and bang… off goes the unconscious. The cuckold however is aroused by the thought of her in stockings and asks his unconscious for more feelings as this is arousing him more and more. In my case it wasn’t stockings I m not actually sure what it was.Cuckolds, these amazing people are able to control the most primal of feelings and are absolute survivors. I would hazard that they have learned skills which could assist survival in extreme conditions, and…… this is maybe another subject but cuckolds may be expressing survival instincts which evolutionary psychologists believe exist.

I havnt had as much intellectual fun as this since I studied Freud as an undergraduate many years ago.