Re: Is there something I am not getting

Thanks Jezz. Proper cuckolding may come down to needs, real needs not wants or greeds. If a woman needs domination, I mean really needs it to the degree that if she does not from time to time have sex with a seemingly uncaring testosterone charged man she will feel lacking in something. That is not enough though, this ” lacking ” must, I believe, cause her distress. This distress may manifest itself in many ways but inability to relax could well be one of them. She may fall into despair even negative behaviour. Indeed if she is like this she should seek help. However if the need is that specific and easily fixed then maybe the bull is just the job. Again a needy woman is not enough, a needy bull is also required. The bull, in my opinion must also need this experience. He must have a need not satisfied anywhere else other than taking the dominant role in a sexual encounter. Again this is a need which must be satisfied and I would add he is unable to satisfy this need in any other relationship. This may be the fact that he has not got a relationship or his agreed relationship cannot provide this. I say agreed as it is better his partner if he has one is also aware he needs this and is compliant. Now that bull and cuckoldress are matched I would go further and suggest the cuckold must need this also. This is the really hard bit. I find it very difficult to believe anyone needs humiliation. I could be wrong, but if the humiliation is genuine really genuine in the bull is really humiliating the cuckold it is difficult to conceive that this could be useful in any way for the cuckold. It is in humiliation that these relationships go wrong I believe. Humiliation by its very nature is given by someone who views the other person as less than worthy. It seems to make sense that if you tell your brain over and over that the other person is less than worthy then your brain will believe it as real, Think of a situation where you believe another person is less than worthy……………………. It is difficult to imagine it is so bad. Is cuckolding touching a dark side of humanity better left alone, or is that going too far. In our modern western world we are , I believe, rightly so , conditioned to have sympathy for other people we are not encouraged to treat the less fortunate badly. Indeed can we even playact this without it becoming real. Is there perhaps another way we could look at cuckolding. Is it not possible the cuckold in a lot of cases is quite intellectual, maybe not as physical, indeed by the fact he can bear this maybe even superior. Leaving out the humiliation, which is devastating to a thinking man,. could the cuckold not be valued and given some superior role in this. His wife after all is quite weak she needs something she should be able to control. Bulls can be weak also in terms of animal needs. the cuckold stands alone as the thinking man, the man who provides the pleasure zone. It is the cuckold who steps down to another level for the entertainment of others. Could we think on that………………