Re: Is there something I am not getting

Thanks Jezz I particularly like your views on the blandness and sameness of life as we know it and how there is little diversity. If you remember the 60s or watch programmes about the area it is obvious the huge explosion of difference which took place. Consider the Beatles four young lads from Liverpool playing American blues music Ordinary working class lads for want of a better word. the world however, after years of war, and necessary compliance was ready for difference……………. a difference which led to flower power, hippies and so on. Men found both their feminine and masculine egos in the garb of the 60s , interestingly men verged to feminine in some circles, or maybe just some men but a slim girlish look seemed to prevail. We have moved far from that and the revolutions which occur now tend to move us towards sameness facebook, twitter, and so on they send out signals that you must be like everyone else or not be normal almost. Facebook introduced a video service of your life since joining a week ago I think Just a compilation of pictures set to music. I am seeing more and more of these come through as if the individual had just discovered something new……………….. they are actually all just following the plan set out by facebook. Individuality is almost frowned upon as if the person expressing it has a problem, something wrong with them. Traditional conservative values are prevailing once more, the safe bet for society. Of course uniformity is not all bad it helps prediction and forward planning, it may stifle innovation but can lead to more stability. Cuckolding is perhaps one way of expressing individuality privately and away from society with all its facebooks and so on. I like the ideas……….. I still have a problem wit the cuckolds role and I suppose what is init for him, longer term. The cuckoldress by expressing her individuality can grow in a certain way and this will have usefulness outside the sexual arena, the same for the bull. However the cuckolds experience is in his humiliation and denial, compliance and so on, not unlike a prison situation. Generally value flows in these circumstances after the release date. Brining this back to psychology though it may be possible the cuckolds survival need, which we all have is expressed to him individually as a desire to submit, this is maybe how submissives express their needs. Deep inside when the unconscious releases the need to survive the submissive male in this case cuckold represents that in a way which he feels inadequate he feels inadequate to the wild strength of the alpha woman or indeed any woman expressing her desires for men. This is expressed as fear to him fear that in these circumstances he will not weigh up, there is just something in this arena he cannot compete with, he is below the radar in this respect. When he sees his wife interact with another man it frightens him not necessarily the fear of the other man but his inability to react in the correct way, he feels there is something missing, it does sound like cowardice but I don’t think it is I believe similar men placed in war situations or whatever would be as brave as anyone else, it is just the peculiarity of the male female reaction he cannot either understand or it frightens him. Fear is what he experiences but survival is the basic need. The cuckold, in his fear, also appreciates something about the female which others maybe do not, to him she transforms into an unavailable goddess in his mind. We all know that deep inside again mankind has worshipped what they fear placed a ritual around it and by doing so have controlled their fear into a set of actions of a worship ritualised type. The greater the fear the more ritual required to overcome and satisfy the survival instinct. By doing this men and women have retained the fear but as long as they operate within certain well established margins all will be well.