Re: My wife doesn’t want to try cuckolding MMF scenario- and I can see why. Any advice?

You need to be careful about the alcohol driving things.  That can be fun in moderation, but since you are in a marriage try some of these things sober and see if they lead anywhere.  When very sexually aroused, they very well might.

While there are some women who can detach and have NSA sex with strangers and enjoy it, most really need to develop some emotional connection for it to work in a way where it is worthwhile to them.  In that, polyamory is a difficult bridge to cross because of our cultural context.  For her to have fulfilling sex, the guy needs to e more than a dildo.  You two are accepting health and relationship risks, so it needs to be worth it.  To her, fairly likely, being worth it would mean it has to go far beyond the dildo play.

The other thing is that she probably is afraid that you will be hurt in the end.  Women are used to men being protective and jealous, even though they are not completely correlated things.  It seems perverse to many of them, at least initially, that their husbands would not just welcome but insist that they have sex with other men.  Even those men with such desires (all can put your hands down) can’t often rationalize it all.  And this is all with good reason.  There is a strong chance you will feel hurt, rejected, and remorseful, at least at first.  When you fantasize over this for a long period of time, you are in control.  It changes completely int he reality of it all.  You are the only one without control.  Your wife has the control of approving this or that.  The bull has control usually in the natural sexual power imbalance.  Some cuckolds can’t get it up or even feel nauseous when it finally happens.  That doesn’t mean they do not come around, but that it is an unexpected emotional shock when the reality sinks in.

A good exercise, that I have brought up elsewhere, is for the two of you to play a fantasy game when you are out and about in public.  Imagine male strangers with whom you meet under normal circumstances (the cashier, the contractor, etc) as lovers while you are with them.  It is funny how different it is when the guy is real, with a normal array of quirks and imperfections.  Your wife is more accustomed to that, as she did that and may even still do that as a sexual human being.  They aren’t all going to have sexy voices and will say things and call your wife things that might set you back as awkward.  Lots of single men have a lot of baggage too that is not immediately apparent, but shapes how they act and how they fuck.  Not trying to make it all sound unpleasant, but there is the reality that you just cannot get from videos and stories.  It is very different when it is personal and can become a wedge in your relationship.  Keep things open for consideration (and some might be things for you to consider that she wants) and go when and where it is mutually comfortable and fun.  And remember that if one or both of you end up not caring for it, don’t let it destroy what you have.  Keep it in context as exploration rather than something from which you cannot go back.