Re: Where does it end?

Thanks for the detailed and considered reply, Jezz. After reflecting on your wise words and thinking about my feelings about the whole matter, I’ve decided to “give” my wife to her lover to do with as he wishes. I’ve told my wife that she should be free to explore her feelings and relationship with her lover. I’ve promised that I won’t ask for sex with her as long as she is with him. I completely understand her need to devote her body entirely to him. She can have sex with him as often as she wants, and is free to date him and to sleep over at his place. I also don’t mind if she wants to legitimise the relationship by going public (but discreetly, if that isn’t a contradiction in terms).

I also didn’t rule out the idea of her having his baby – but made it clear that if that step was contemplated, it would need to be very thoroughly discussed. At a bare minimum, her lover would have to be prepared to make a commitment to be around as the child’s biological father.

A big step, but we’ve come so far already…