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Paula
After years of my husband’s hot stories and our discussions on hotwifing we finally took the step into its reality! We agreed that he would watch and of course open and honest communication about everything. I have played with several men since we decided to move forward with this a couple of years ago and it’s been an eye opening wonderful experience to sexual enjoyment and has brought us closer together. However, we are both wanting a bull for me that will be exclusive to me and of course I to him with the exception of me still having sex with my husband. We understand that an exclusive Bull would want his needs met and I’m prepared to do so, however the question is where to look to find a bull that would be willing to have an exclusive situation? Your help and advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
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No Replies despite such a nice butt? Sheesh. OK, my 2 cents…
I think many of us would love an exclusive or what I call a “closed circle” relationship. There are plenty of STDs around and some of us want regular and frequent service. Also, you don’t really have time to build a relationship if you are seeing lots of others and only have time or an occasional screw with each.
However, you want the bull to be exclusive to you but you want to have sex with hubby… not very fair to the bull, and does not seem that the bull would be very dominant in such an arrangement. I suggest you consider the “closed circle” deal – basically you get to have sex with a very small circle of STD tested / verified people you trust. i.e. your hubby, you, bull, his wife or gf…. as long as you trust the spice (spouses?) not to cheat.
My submissive and I are both married but not to each other, with no sex with the spouse. Ours is a cheating deal – my wife does not know and her husband doesn’t know …. Well, as much as you don’t know when your spouse goes “out with friends” and doesn’t come home until 4am regularly or goes away with friends for a couple days / weekend… Anyway, other than a couple attempts at bringing in a 3rd girl, with my sub’s encouragement, we have been monogamous for 14 years. We are still looking but #2 must be willing to be monogamous with me, not a lesbian, and have a reasonably clean bill of health (STD testing is mandatory.) Yes it is hard to find someone. I’ve had several people indicate interest in having sex with me but only a few were interested in monogamy and unfortunately had HSV2 – genital herpes which is incurable.
My suggestion is that when you look for your bull you look for someone you communicate with well. If you are communicating you can tell them what you want and they can agree or follow their own path. I think that if you are satisfying the bull he is not likely to stray if his interests parallel yours. However, I will say that you need to not only satisfy him physically in bed, but mentally and emotionally. The physical part gets you started but the mental compatibility is what keeps you going long term, even if you get old and fat. 🙂
Also, define what you are really looking for in more detail. An exclusive lover is still pretty vague. Do you want him to be submissive to you or to be dominant? Does your hubby want to be buddies, do DP, be submissive, or just watch? Sounds like controlling your sex life with hubby may not be very welcome, though it can be a big turn on.
Talk with people in forums like this or try more general forums like Fetlife. -
Paula
Have not been on i a while. Thank you for the great advise!
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Islander
I am definitely seeking a steady couple…. weekly meets or whenever we get horny.
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