Marriage Evolved discussion Role Discussions Submissive Husbands Boyfriend Integration

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    • CatalinaLovers
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        Has anyone successfully done this? My wife’s boyfriend is visiting this next weekend and has asked to stay at our house. Typically he gets a hotel or brings his RV. He said he can sleep wherever. My kids know him well but my wife and him are never intimate in front of the kids. Although it has been a fantasy of mine and my wife has come close to kissing him a couple times.

        I am thinking of encouraging that he stays with my wife in our bed and I sleep in the office. I don’t think he will be comfortable having me stay in the room with him.

        My kids are 13 daughter and 11 son. They get a long with him great, no my wife goes and stays with him and that they even have gone on weekend vacations together. Our kids have never asked much. Once my daughter asked where her mom sleeps when she is with him and I just said with him at his place, like she would with friends.

        Seems it is a good time to fully intigrate him.

      • lickherclean
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          just play it cool as you are and would be normal for your wifes boyfriend to sleep in your room, as long as you and your wife are good with him sleeping in your bed so will your kids.

        • sixinchindy
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            Would love to hear more about how this is going

            • CatalinaLovers
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                He ended up not staying with us. My son got the flu, then I got it then my wife so we had a house full of sick people. Now I feel we need a do over weekend :).

            • MarioMario
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                Hi, your post prompted me to share my story. It’s hard for me to classify what kind of relationship I’m in, so I’ll leave it up to you to judge. We met our friend at our friends’ wedding reception. We hit it off right away, to the point that we spent the night together. That was four years ago, we were 36 and he was 48. But we were struck by some kind of cupid’s arrow :). From the very beginning of our relationship, the only way to meet was at our house – he lives over a three-hour drive away, and we have children, so we don’t have complete freedom of action. The first meeting at our place looked like a regular meeting of friends, a few drinks, late night conversations. The night belonged to him and my wife. The formula of these meetings looked the same for a long time. Then his presence was extended, he would arrive on Friday and leave on Sunday afternoon. In the eyes of my children (then 14 and 8 years old), he became a “good uncle”. After a year of knowing each other, we even went on vacation together at the seaside. Beach during the day and fire at night. Today, he even knows my mother-in-law (he helped renovate the bathroom), and in fact, our entire families. The only person who suspected anything was my wife’s friend, but that’s not surprising, they’ve known each other for ages. This surprising lack of suspicion may also be due to the age difference, although I don’t know if anyone doesn’t suspect it or just doesn’t show it. For our family, his presence has become natural, to the point that they ask when he’ll be visiting us 🙂

                • KCMRCUCK
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                    Great experiences. I have been trying to integrate my wife’s boyfriend into our relationship in a more definitive way. My wife talks about it all the time. When she schedules a date she cuts me off from sexual activity until she sees him and there is absolutely no touching her in a sexual way on the day of her dates so she is into the boyfriend ruling the roost and being the Alpha she just doesn’t seem ready maybe to fully integrate him into our lifestyle which I think is really important for our dynamic

                • Anubis88
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                    As long as you don’t make it into a big deal but explain that everything is ok. Everyone else will be ok. Our bull moved in. And we all share the same bed and nothing has happened. That was 4 years ago.

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