devastating sense of guilt

Keep communication with your husband open and be honest.
We began this journey after my wife had an affair with a younger man.
We worked through it and by being honest with each other, we were better prepared when they reconnected some years later.
That turned into an affair that lasted almost two years

If your husband truly loves you, he absolutely should want you to be and feel fulfilled in every possible way. He certainly understands that he is not providing that fulfillment for you sexually, as he is open to cuckolding. He just needs to be convinced that this particular partner is the key to unlocking that satisfaction for you.

It should not be that difficult to have a lie-down in bed with him where you explain that you do want more sexual satisfaction in your life and want to reopen the discussion about cuckolding. Explain that although you know he said it should be with a “stranger”, you never really were drawn that way because you need not just some initial attraction and wham-bam sex, but a bit of time to allow the attraction to grow to feel true satisfaction and you do not get that with a stranger far away from your everyday life. Then ask him “don’t you want me to be sexually fulfilled?” and ask if maybe he would be willing to rethink the stranger requirement.

If you are stroking his dick while you have this discussion, there is an excellent chance that it will be rock hard and leaky by this point in the conversation. You can point that out, and say that his “truth detector” seems to agree that you should be able to date people other than strangers if you are attracted to them. He will have a very “hard” time disagreeing.

Then you can suggest some men you know as potential partners, including this 32 year old hunk, and say you have found yourself sexually attracted to him lately. My guess is his dick will be ready to explode and you can easily get him to agree.

Good luck!

I think if you tell him the way you’ve described it here, he should understand and agree with you. But maybe you should think about a good way to phrase things as they should continue—and especially how they shouldn’t end.
Most men aren’t afraid of what’s happening now, but rather how things will end.

The feelings you are having, are very similar to the ones my wife had when she started an affair with my best friend and was a groomsman in our wedding. He would stop by in the afternoon when he knew I had to be gone for work. I always had thoughts of them doing something sexual, but never in thought it would actually happen in real life. She was the one who stopped the affair after many months of sex with him because of the guilt she was having. It took a few years for my wife to admit that he had been fucking her for some time and it was he who gave my wife her first orgasm from penetration. It was a blow to my ego at first, but after some time I came to realize how she deserved that for herself. I was always a pre-mature ejaculator and could never bring her to orgasm from using just my cock. Now after many years of being married and having much better communication between us, she knows I am happy that she had that chance and took it for her own pleasure. She still has feelings for him and one other neighbor who also was fucking her, but we all remain great friends to this day. Enjoy it while you can and hopefully you and your husband can talk about it in the future.

I have a test you can give your husband that will reveal if he is stag/cuckold material. It is a no-risk test, but very accurate, in my opinion. Send me a note if you want a non-judgmental, confidential chat or look for me in the chat queue.

I have a test you can give your husband that will reveal if he is stag/cuckold material. It is a no-risk test, but very accurate, in my opinion. Send me a note if you want a non-judgmental, confidential chat or look for me in the chat queue.

Selenenoir,

Your instincts are strong and show that you care very much about your husband — that is all very much to your credit. However, let’s face it, you are not being satisfied sexually by him … you know it, and he knows it too. So do not get all hung up on what happened on one occasion when you got tempted. Should that experience have happened after discussing it and getting agreement from your husband? Sure. But the same thing has happened in millions and millions of marriages that have lasted and in many cases even been strengthened in the wake of such an event.

You have to know that this is not going away — you just had an experience that rocked your inner core, and you are not going to be happy letting that go. If you do not bring this up, you are only going to have a resentment toward your husband that continues to grow over time — that is not healthy.

The real key is how you and your husband can get to a place where you are both feeling satisfied and that you are upholding your rightful roles in the marriage, supporting each other and making sure the other is content in your dedication to each other. To get there, you need to have a conversation about what can make you feel truly satisfied in the marriage.

There may be some temporary jealousy and some angst, but you can reassure him through that — letting him know that he is the one you chose to marry, he is the one you want to stay married to, he is the one who you want to spend your life with, and he is the one who can help you arrive at complete satisfaction. Any man who truly loves his wife, and from everything you have said it sounds like he absolutely does, should jump at a chance to open the key to your complete and utter satisfaction. He can get over his jealousy and angst and support you in your journey of sexual satisfaction.

Good luck to you!