Looking for help going from fantasy to reality

I recommend the book Opening Up: A guide to creating and sustaining Open Relationships, it helped my wife and I a lot. Although it is not about the cuckold kink it does very much relate on many levels. 

I also recommend introducing large realistic toys into your role play if you have not already and have her tell you how good it feels, how much better it fills her, how deeper it penetrates her and how she wants more. 

Don’t rush her, keeping loving and supporting her, and have fun! 

I also suggest you try this toy, you don’t feel much, she feels everything, I have not done chastity, although I feel like it when I use cock extenders. I have tried them all and in my opinion this one is by far the best!

Muscle Cock Sheath New Improved Version of Gym Boy Cock Extender with attached Cocksling 2 by Oxballs
by Oxballs
Link: http://amzn.com/B00NKB53YO

Hello Shawn
Your wife has some valid concerns. All I can do is express my opinions in dealing with other couples that have had similar concerns.
First off, get the cage! Show her that you are truly sincere and want this to happen and you’re willing to sacrifice yourself for her pleasure. And when she needs relief then she can tell you to remove your cage but other than that, once you are comfortable in it, your caged to show her your devotion. Also take the suggestion of earlier reply so she can see what a man would feel like.
As for the roleplay, Keep it going. It stimulates you both and every time it will get her closer to giving reality a chance. The step from fantasy to reality is a small one but is one of the hardest things to do. Once done though it will open up a whole new world for you two.
She has every right to be concerned with the “social norms”. Times they are changing but not as open as some would like you to think. Be smart, be discrete when starting out. Make arraingments to meet out of town or place you don’t usually go to. Have her Dom come to your house or go to his. Until you both feel comfortable with “going out” remain low key. The time may or may not come around, some of that depends on how high of a profile you have and how you feel about other people you know seeing you in your new lifestyle. One way of being “out” with your lifestyle without attracting attention yet “hiding in plain sight”, is have get togethers at your house with family and friends. If he is already in that circle good, if not he’s nothing more than an “old friend” you ran into. Everyone accepts that and he now is in your circle.
And by all means, she doesn’t need to find someone by sleeping around. All that does is open you up for STD’s or crazies.
You or her must have a friend or co-worker that seems to be interested in her. She can flirt a bit with them and see if they are interested. If so, see where that may go. Look around and see who pays extra attention to her and if they fit her tastes. Websites like this one seem to have a great deal of decent people, some are local I am sure. Introduce yourselves and go from there.
But above all…..become friends with the Man that is going to be with your wife. Talk to him, listen to him, both of you. He should be someone you both like and get along with. He Needs to be your Friend Before a Lover.
When you think you’ve found someone, feel free to email/text/talk to them. Get to know what he expects from you two and what you expect from him. Be clear about this if you are looking for something to last more than a week or 2.
Additionally you need to decide if your looking for a bull or a Dom. This site has a good explanation of the difference. Read the information located here, have your wife read it also.
Last but not least
Communicate with each other, hopes, fears, dreams. That is the key to making it work long term.
I have been in the lifestyle as a Dom for the past 10 years. I am still friends with all the couples I have been with and am welcomed into their home when I am in town.
Feel free to contact me if you have additional questions if you’d like
markthomasemail2@gmail
Hope this helped if even a little
Thanks Mark

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ANNE’S MID WEEK AFTERNOON
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May 16, 2016 at 7:14 PM #14596REPLY
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Wednesday…often called ‘Hump Day’… and indeed it was a day for humping. ?

Some may know, I have been in search of a Bull for the past several months. I have had very positive experiences with three different Bulls, but unfortunately for two of them the actual long-term commitment on their end isn’t quite there due to a variety of reasons.

The third Bull, ‘A’, I’ve known for several years as a traditional lover in the ‘swing lifestyle’ and I have had a very comfortable and intimate relationship with him that james has always known about. Recently after ‘A’ reached out to me, I explained that I was now a Hotwife and james and I have a cuckold marriage. When he heard this he was very enthusiastic and agreeable to the idea of being my Bull. He had a good understanding of the role of a Bull and how he would blend into making a relationship of three. With enthusiasm, ‘A’ has taken on the roll of my Bull. As luck would have it he also has recently changed jobs and his office is just minutes away from my house. I now have a Bull at my disposal and on just a few minutes notice he can be walking through my front door and into my bedroom!

This past Wednesday, I asked ‘A’ if he were available for getting together. ‘A’ was excited to take a break from the office and come over. While texting before our meeting to set the time, he let me know that he would have instructions for james.

When ‘A’ arrived, he and I kissed while james watched. Soon after, at ‘A’s request, all three of us were heading to the bedroom where ‘A’ began giving his instructions to james. James was told to undress and be naked in chastity in front of us, which was very titillating to me to hear and see him performing the demands of ‘A’. James, looking vulnerable standing before us, was then directed to orally prepare my pussy and ass for ‘A’. While enjoying james’ tongue between my legs, I got to watch ‘A’ undress, followed by him immediately inserting his erect big black cock in my mouth. Following several minutes oral, ‘A’ asked that I sit on him with james guiding the penetration, and after, james being told to leave the room leaving the two of us alone for our pleasure.

After james leaving the room, ‘A’, while I was sitting on him, kissed and caressed me…I was so turned on. He stroked his cock in me and pushed it deeper as I moved on it…at one point I thought that I was over stimulated… but after several changes in positions of deep thrusting, I finally had him lay on his side underneath me. I then wrapped my legs around him and forcefully moved myself until I finally exploded. Eventually ‘A’ couldn’t hold back any longer, and with me on my back and him on top with my legs up high and spread wide (yoga has many benefits!), he thrust fast and deep and soon ejaculated in me. After a few moments of letting me feel his hot semen in me, he pulled his dark cock out of me. It was coated with a yummy thick white cream…yes, it looked like it had been dipped in white chocolate. ? Before he totally removed his cock from me, we called james back into the room to photograph the erotic scene and for some considerable “clean-up”. ‘A’ directed me to sit on james’ face while I squeezed and he tongued the left over into his mouth. Again, james was asked to leave once I was fully clean.

After a few minutes of pillow talk, ‘A’ unfortunately had to get back to the office, which then allowed me and james to share with each other about the afternoon and how wonderful it was for both of us. It was an easy decision by me that james would remain in chastity until the following morning, when I finally un-locked him and stroked him until he spurted with intensity.
May 17, 2016 at 3:57 PM #14611REPLY
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Thanks for sharing. Giving other couples (and prospective bulls) a healthy example of how a couple can make this work as a lifestyle and include the cuckold in direct and meaningful ways is very helpful. I do appreciate you contributing as you are.
May 19, 2016 at 7:11 PM #14661EDIT | REPLY
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Lucky James.

I have been trying to get my wife to be a Hotwife. I started underperforming a year ago and at this point she likes for me to give her oral sex. She loves it. She teeses me with the size of my penis and says it has decreased in size. I Teese her saying that she is in need of a bull in a hotel to penetrate her for hours and in every position. She normally denies the need and changes the subject, but usually, she gets horny and has me get down and likes for me to give her oral sex without penetration. How should I continue to get her to finally get to know a bull????
Would love to hear from, the mark the previous participant…