Many Questions About Cuckolding

The short answer to your question is yes, there are many varying degrees of cuckolding. Each couple has their own needs. In your case, it could be said that you are sharing her from the position of authority, rather than the position of submission, which is the true cuckold role. This means that you would be leading her into enjoying other men and she would look to you as the figure of authority or leadership in this adventure. For cuckolds who share, they are not in a position of leadership in the experience of sharing her – and happiest that way. Your wife may well respond best to you being the one to establish the setting and the boundaries. It could continue this way or, you could find your perspectives change and grow with new experiences.

It's entirely possible that your sex life is very good and that there's little lacking in you performance; this, too, is a bit of a false stereotype. The analogy I often point to is that most of us have a favorite ice cream flavor – we can always have that ice cream and enjoy it and when asked, we'll choose that as our favorite, but that doesn't mean there aren't any other flavors we enjoy or could be curious enough about to try. If it's good, fine, add it to the list of flavors I enjoy – if it's not enjoyable, no problem, I always have my favorite – and my list of flavors I also enjoy. Your wife simply needs the opportunity to enjoy some new flavors.

Stop by and chat sometime – we'll discuss in more detail.

Our sitiuation is quite similar to yours, altho my wife very much enjoys the fantasy. She has stated she would never be interested  in taking this to reality. I'm not the type of husband that would want her to if her heart wasn't in it. She does love to go out dancing , but I'm a terrible dancer and don't enjoy it much. Lately we have been going out and I encourage her to dance with other men while I sit back and enjoy. She's a very sexy dancer and its easy to see she's enjoying herself out there. When we get home and go to bed she is always quite excited and I enjoy teasing her about how she seemed to be getting awfully close to some of the men. I have seen a few try to feel her ass but she always shoves it away. All this gets me very excited also and we end up roleplaying and having a wonderful night enjoying each other. I must add after we were married for about 15 years our sex life had become rather routine and quite dull. It had finally gotten to the point where we only had sex maybe once a month. Whether we ever move on and actually try this or not at least we have found something to rekindle a lost flame, time will tell.

As for your question on different levels of cuckolding, one has only to read the different blogs that are about . It seems there is all kinds of play, you just have to find whats right for you and your wife. I've read some where the couple only plays once or twice a year which is understandable since most of our lives are quite busy with work, kids and just living our regular life. Some play a couple times a week or more, I have no idea where they find the time.lol

I hope you find what your looking for!

Our situation is similar.  My wife and I fantasize about cuckolding and enjoy doing so.  We're talking about buying a 'sexy house' when she retires in a few months.  We will have time, energy and lack of stress in our new life.  I think cuckolding would fit in nicely with our new life. She is very pretty, sexy and stylish.  I would look forward to being a cuckold, but admittedly would probably have more than my share of 'cuckold angst'.  It would be nice for me to have a trusting relationship/friendship with someone like LUVR, who could tease me about, and also reassure me concerning, the cuckold/hotwife/bull relationship while he was servicing my pretty wife.

Well that was a little unsettling.  I was relating to T and his original post (above) complete with a desire to modify the habitual cuckolding situation and then, out of nowhere, he says “Sorry, guess I am a bull”.  Kind of leaves some of us with an empty feeling about this whole thing.

I agree matmagic….that felt kind of out of left field. In my experience it seems like the guys that seek out cuckolding information have been fantasizing about it for quite a while, and already have a good idea that it's something they're interested. For me changing from a cuck to a bull would be impossible, let alone after reading a handful of forum posts!

T- I think you are overreacting. My post was not meant do discourage or insult, and if it was received that way I sincerely apologize. I'll also add that I missed the “were I not married” part of your second post. Perhaps it should have been clear to us that you are new to this idea, and still feeling things out, and we should have kept our traps shut. But I do stand by my observations. 

That said, I think you should do whatever is right for you and your wife. I'm not sure what decision you made that I wouldn't like…so I'll just ignore that part.

If you are interested in cuckolding as a cuck, bull, spectator, or anything else I encourage you to not delete your account. You won't find a resource like this anywhere else. 

Whatever.

I think it is possible to enjoy being both a bull and a cuckold. The key is in the relationship a cuckold has with his partner. If a potential cuckold doesn’t have a partner then the situation doesn’t arise. Of course, there are degrees of cuckold and Dom and perhaps you could be a tame / moderate version of either. In terms of BDSM isn’t the term a ‘switch’?

@southwestcple said:
I think it is possible to enjoy being both a bull and a cuckold. The key is in the relationship a cuckold has with his partner. If a potential cuckold doesn’t have a partner then the situation doesn’t arise. Of course, there are degrees of cuckold and Dom and perhaps you could be a tame / moderate version of either. In terms of BDSM isn’t the term a ‘switch’?

We are all a ‘switch’; our roles (behavior) is a reflection of how we perceive those we interact with. This is why a wife can be dominant with her husband yet crawl happily across the floor to her boyfriend. She simply perceives him as being dominant and deserving of her deference where her husband has always been a peer at best and submissive once such things were investigated.

She could become a Hotwife. A milder form of cuckolding. Think how you would feel if you had a really nice car. Would you keep it all to yourself all the time. No way. You’d want to show it off and share it. And you’d enjoy other people enjoying you car and you’d feel great as they tell you how lucky you are to have such an amazing car. And of course you could both go out for a drive!