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Has she ever flirted/mentioned or even hinted about another guy, either in the bedroom or when you’ve just been chatting over a glass of wine. Every experience is different. Here is a short version of how it happened for us:

Even before I knew it, she was already settling for less than what she’d had with other boyfriends.

Alongside all of this though was that my fantasy, practically since we’d first been together, was to see her fuck a much younger, fitter guy with a big dick. For years, she wouldn’t hear of it and so it remained just something in my head. Things changed ten years into our marriage when I happened to pick up her phone and discovered a guy she knew from her professional career and I think had slept with previous to me was messaging and pressing her for a date. He knew she was married to me, but this didn’t seem to be a problem for either of them! She was obviously enjoying the secret flirting with this guy (the thought of him and what they’d done in contrast to her husband) and there were a lot of messages exchanged, some of them very hot from him and she certainly didn’t shy away. The pics he sent showed me straight away why she might want to be seduced. Being the wannabe cuckold thats just was, I was turned on by it of course. 

I asked her about the texts and she immediately cried, said it was nothing and that it would stop. I now understand the tears were for merely being found out. But I then said to her ‘well instead of doing things in secret, what if I genuinely said I liked it? I don’t know the guy you’re messaging but I know for a fact that there are guys we know that would love to be with you. Hot Guys from the band in their 20s. You’re incredibly hot don’t forget!’ And I smiled. She in turn said that she never thought I was serious, but did miss the feel of a taller, fit guy on top of her, like she’d always had before me. And obviously this meant guys that had bigger dicks. I know that her last long term guy was 6ft4 and had a massive cock. They still see each other sometimes and he even came to our wedding. Apparently, all innocent!

Hence why she’d welcomed the messages from this work guy. From the pictures he’d sent her I could see why.  So, when I went to lengths to persuade her I was serious, she relaxed into the idea quite quickly. Probably a bit too quickly as things turned out. After putting our daughter to bed that evening, we settled back to chat about what was happening. Her legs were across my lap, she had a glass of wine in hand and I began to massage her feet and toes as we chatted. 

‘Who likes me then? I know about that Welsh guy – Simon – who follows the band! He’s given me his number a coupla times when you’ve been on stage and stood very close to me at gigs complimenting me.’ She said nervously.

She was indeed referring to Simon, fit, older and had indeed cuddled her a bit at a gig and had pressed up against her, so that she could feel his big hard cock against her when she thought I couldn’t see (indeed, I learned some years later from Nick that they had snuck away once and that there was a snog between them towards the end of our second gig, so she was already warming up to having what she wanted!) She liked the attention and showed me that he’d pressed a bit of paper into her hand that night with his number on it! He’d said that night he thought she was an incredibly sexy woman. She came hard on my tongue that night telling me about it! 

‘Actually it’s Nick IN the band to name one! Said he’d liked you for ages, was gutted that when Ste left the band and you had even playfully said you’d like him a lot and that he too liked you!  Nick though would love to meet you with me and understand more of the dynamic!’

She frowned. ‘But he’s only 23, why would he be interested in me?’ And she scoffed a little. I pushed forward with ‘because you’re incredibly sexy babe. Simple as!’ and I looked her right in the eye and leant forwards to kiss her. But she stared ahead, like I’d lost her a sec lol! She relaxed and I saw the mood shift. ‘He is very fit. Just never thought someone like that would like me! Did he really say he liked me? I need there to be a connection with him and for him to be better in bed than you.’

L was like this also, for years even flirting whilst she was out, but it took for a guy to make a genuine, considered approach to her that tipped her over. Is there such a guy she might like?
There is some excelled advice on here on getting started so do read up. This is only our situation and every couple is unique in their approach and desires. Just remember you’re doing it primarily for your lovely wife.

All you can do is suggest, guide gently and the rest has to come from her.