One year on

On 4 January 2019 I posted this on Cuckold Marriage: My wife has just told me that she wants find herself a boyfriend. It’s thrown my world into absolute turmoil and I need to talk to someone about it.

I wanted to update you, on year on, on where things have got to. The basics: my wife C has fucked four men in the last 12 months other than me. Her fourth is an academic 17 years younger than her. She’s being seeing him for six months. He’s now her boyfriend. Last night they came back from three nights away – at my expense – in Barcelona. I was at home looking after the kids.

I am now absolutely acclimatised to being a cuckold husband. Dan is part of the family. The kids call him “Mummy’s friend”. All my friends and hers, and most of our relations, know she has a boyfriend. She sees him every three or four weeks, staying at his place, going out to parties together. Otherwise, we are a normal husband and wife. We occasionally even have sex.

She is happier and healthier than she has ever been. She loves getting away from home and the family and Dan is a great lover and good company.

For me the last 12 months have been very hard. I was locked in chastity for a while, for a while we were not having sex and we weren’t even intimate. I fought C for a while – refusing to go along with her having affairs. This didn’t work. She didn’t leave me, but she certainly made my life miserable until she got her way. It’s been very hard psychologically. The chastity cage – tiny and metal – left me anxious and so submissive. C decided to stop that because I became useless around the house, with the kids and at work. For me it was absolute hell, torture, when she was with other men. Now I cope, I just get on with stuff until she gets back. We have sex almost immediately C comes home. This helps.
Are we happier now? Certainly my wife is; and I suppose if she is happier, so am I. Our marriage has survived. The kids are thriving. I’ve come to the point where I have accepted that being a cuckold is really what I deserve.