The First Step

When people hear the word non-monogamy, the first thing they think about is sex. And rightly so, Non-monogamy is the exact opposite of monogamy. Monogamy is defined as “the habit of having only one mate at a time.” What is a habit? The word habit is defined as “a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.”

Many married couples find the idea of the wife having sex with other men hard to digest, accept, or understand. And many people wonder why, if a couple involves other men in their sexual relationship, the couple even got married.

Couples that involve other men in their marital sexual relationship are often considered cuckold/Hotwife couples. A cuckold is a man married to an unfaithful wife. A Hotwife is a wife who has sex with men other than her husband.

Cuckolding is a big thing on the Internet, and many consider cuckolding to be mostly fantasy. The reality is that more and more couples are opting to add men to their marital bed rather than to divorce because of sexual frustration or infidelity.

Non-monogamy is a type of interpersonal relationship in which an individual forms multiple and simultaneous sexual or romantic bonds. In a marriage, it is often the wife who forms these bonds with men other than her husband. And it is often the wife having sex with other men that makes the husband love his wife more, or feel more loved by her.

For many husbands, the thrill of watching another man, or other men, make love to their wives can’t be matched. Seeing their wife in the throes of passion with another man between her legs is a sight many husbands live for.

A wife married to a man who has a small penis, erectile difficulties, prematurely ejaculates, or just has a sexual fetish and needs to see his wife having sex with other men, can benefit from having sex with other men regularly and in her own marital bed. This is accomplished by the couple accepting the wife’s need to be sexually satisfied, and allowing her to get that satisfaction by having sex with other men.

The stronger a couple’s relationship is, the better the chances are of a non-monogamous marriage working.

The secret to making a non-monogamous marriage work is understanding that the wife’s lovers are just friends with benefits. They are not there to replace the husband or to take his place in the marriage. The lovers are there for one reason: to have sex with the wife.

A wife who has sex with other men can have the best of both worlds. She can be married to a man who supports her financially and emotionally, and she can have lovers who fulfill her, as well as her husband’s, fantasies.

Many couples who involve other men in their marital sex lives consider the wife having lovers as the key to their marital happiness. And the men asked to join the couple’s marital sex life are those who contribute to the couple’s happiness and success in their marriage.

Couples that involve other men in their marital sex life expect honesty. This means stating desires and admitting to likes and dislikes. Married couples that choose to be non-monogamous often choose for the wife to have sex with other men and for the husband to remain faithful. The couples that involve other men in their marital bed are often seen as swingers, but that is not usually the case in reality.

Swinger couples are couples that allow each other to have sex with others. Cuckold couples are more wife-focused. Another man or other men often supply the sexual satisfaction of the wife. The husband’s sexual satisfaction results from knowing that his wife is, or seeing his wife, having sex with other men.

Cuckold husbands are men who are secure in their masculinity, or lack thereof, and have no fears of their wives falling in love with another man or other men. Cuckolding is not polyamory. Most wives who have sex with other men do so simply for sexual gratification. There is no love between the wife and her lover(s). What is involved between most wives and their lovers is a bonding that is more often fluid.

When a couple decides to involve other men in their marital sex life, the couple often either meets the other man or men in a social atmosphere, or they invite them directly into their home. The new man, or men, meet the husband and the wife, then they often go right to the reason the latest man or men are there, to have sex with the wife.

The most critical role of the husband is making sure that the new man, or men, know that they have his permission and encouragement to have sex with his wife. The more the husband tells the new man, or men, the better. Telling the other men of your sexual fantasies and/or sexual inadequacies is always a good start.

Telling the other man, or men, that it is okay to touch, kiss, and feel up your wife is a good thing as well. It is paramount that not only the lovers, but also the wife, feel comfortable with each other. Your wife and her lover(s) need to feel reassured that the sex they are going to have, or have had, is beneficial to everyone involved. And your (the husband’s) encouragement and acceptance are not only important, but it is a must.

As the wife, it is your responsibility to shed your fears and social negatives. As the wife in a non-monogamous marriage, you have the responsibility to see yourself as worthy of great, fulfilling sex within your marriage with other men. As the wife in a non-monogamous marriage, you have to understand that you having sex with other men is important to your husband. It is how he gets his sexual satisfaction, beyond what you alone have to offer. You also have to understand that you having sex with other men is a very special way of showing your husband how much you truly love him.

The biggest part of a successful non-monogamous marriage is communication. Another crucial aspect of a successful non-monogamous marriage is the ability to communicate effectively on all levels. A wife has to be able to state her desires and what she wants sexually. And she has to be able to tell her husband where he meets or does not meet her sexual needs.

A husband has to feel confident that, if he does state his desires, he will not be judged. A wife must also feel assured that if she does have sex with other men, she will not be judged, either. When a husband can enjoy and actually desire his wife to have sex with other men, and the wife is comfortable having sex with other men, whether her husband is present or not. The couple can rest assured that with the help of the wife’s lovers, their marriage will be successful.

A married couple that genuinely wants the best for each other can include other men in their marital sex life and find that these men can and do enhance their marital relationship.

The way that non-monogamy works is that the couple talks everything over, they decide that each person is as important as the other, and they accept that the wife having sex with other men may just be what their marriage needs.

Once a wife has sex with another man, or other men, in front of her husband, monogamy is gone. In place of monogamy, the married couple makes the wife’s, as well as the husband’s, sexual needs a priority. Once sex becomes a priority, within a marriage, the inclusion of other men in the marital bed can begin.