When her boyfriend controls our sex

I reckon its natural for you to feel anxious about coupling in front of her bull. But that anxiety rests on the notion that you must be able to perform. The reality may be that coupling here is instructional instead. If she is discerning you do your best and she cooperates, without feeling the need to pretend. She is honest with you, allowing you to try whilst knowing that orgasms are shared elsewhere. You come (or don’t as the case may be) and she makes the comparisons. Its inevitable, women are programmed so to do. She won’t say much, you will finish and if you are wise you will learn a good deal. You will see from her expression that she knows what proper sex involves. You might see pity, disdain, contempt, but it will help you adapt, help you to encourage her to couple with her bull instead. Mistress deserves the best. You might think that its best to concentrate on your tongue work-few women can resist the ultilmate combination, worshipful cunnilingus and regular hard cocking with the bull. The new arrangement will have begun and you will have a role that is no longer about cock performance. Brutal, but finally kind I suggest.

I would think the added dynamic of her boyfriend controlling the way your sexual relationship is with your wife to be only normal and justified. I would add if you were more skilled or capable then she wouldn’t need a boyfriend (Sorry, I don’t mean to sound cruel or nasty). So my thinking is that if I was her boyfriend I would limit your encounters with your wife to your pleasuring her orally only, expect after her boyfriend, where you would be allowed to have intercourse with your wife in front of her boyfriend.
I think that would be very telling for everyone concerned. I think that every cuckold knows that their partner’s boyfriends are more able to satisfy than themselves. So in the event:
– of you not getting it up due to the pressure of being watched, you yet again display how inadequate you are but now in front of everyone
– that you put your cock in your wife, but can’t really feel much and/or fail to cum. This shows you how much bigger her boyfriend is compared to you
– you don’t make your wife cum, yet again another show of inadequacy
– you cum quickly, yet again another show of inadequacy.
I would suggest that you would be just lining yourself up for a clear show to everyone on how inadequate you are in your performance. I would think the only reprieve is to fully focus on her pleasure giving her oral etc as much and often as possible.

What I think we’re referring to here is an evolution of attitudes and roles. Whilst all couples are slightly different, some typical change in thinking might be as follows:

Bull: (thoughts) this guy is no competition for me, he needs I guess to try it on for a short while, to have a little space to do his thing, but the comparisons are going to be telling. This beautiful babe is going to get fed up with inadequate seconds, she will demure a while about saying so, and yet it feels sexy too, admitting how inadequate her husband is in that department. She will get caught for a while, consoling him, exciting me, saying that she wishes I did all the fucking from now on. So there will come a day when I say to him, ‘pussy is now off limits to your cock man , you have to use your tongue instead, and then only when I say. When you lick its to pleasure her, always in her service, do you hear? No cock seconds.’ Its direct, harsh perhaps, but once he is submitting to my control, I can work with his wife, helping her to become his mistress. I’ll help her become accustomed to working that tongue, enjoying a different sort of orgasm on it, one that spells female domination in her pretty head.

Hotwife: (thoughts) I’m anxious about the change, about how i will seem. I do so want both men in my life, but my bull is my bedroom mate-he rules and I wish my husband would get on accept that. I want to be owned by my bull and hubby needs to concede that. Hubby and I will still retain all else in our marriage, but the sex will be different. He will do as my bull says, he will pleasure me in ways that my bull wants. Dear God, this is so sexy, so forbidden, but I want it. I want my boyfriend to boss my husband around. We’ll work out the details as we go-just as long as I get more and more of what I’ve discovered and so desperately need. I’ll help hubby…I will.

Cuck husband:(thoughts) This is so humiliating and yet it alarms me that the humiliation is exciting. What will she think of me, what will she do if I say to him, ‘look you’ve won, you fuck her so much better than I. I’m ready to take your instructions?’ Will she walk, disgusted by my weakness, missing the gift that this is meant to represent? Will she humiliate me after that-if so, can I cope with that, do I need it? I do, I don’t, I get stiff thinking about it and I’m sure that I shouldn’t. Perhaps if I talk to him, find a joint way to please her, so she sees that we can work out roles, those that put her centre stage of everything?’ This so arousing, so needful, and he is so cal m and assured, no wonder she prefers him.

Does it work to a formula-I think not! There are doubts, back tracks, pauses, diversions, but for many, the true cucks and hot wives, they find a way to this separation of roles, the ascendency of the alpha couple. The submissive instinct finds a new route-hotwife to bull, cuck to hot wife and an equilibirum emerges. Scary emotions Rally are the norm and healthy. You realise the import of such a change. Its not something that longer term is a game, its a chosen lifestyle. You would be crazy not to have doubts, not to ponder this carefully. So much depends on emotional intelligence, hers, the bulls and your own. This is so different to social norm living from the past. As the Cat Steven’s song went, ‘take your time, think a lot, think of everything you’ve got, you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.’ Be clear about the dreams then.

Even though I check out this website daily, I somehow missed this very erotic (to me) thread. It is similar to my own thread (chastity and penis demotion) I started about luvr’s penis demotion posting—but in the opposite. I don’t have a small penis, rather one that’s too big for my wife. Still, I find the idea of my wife’s boyfriend (if she had one) controlling my sex a potent turn-on to me. I particularly appreciated Jeez’s psychoanalytical approach, getting into the minds of each participant. I wonder how his analysis would alter regarding a cuck who possessed a larger cock or one equal to the bull?

When Jezz finished his post with . . .

Does it work to a formula-I think not! There are doubts, back tracks, pauses, diversions, but for many, the true cucks and hot wives, they find a way to this separation of roles, the ascendency of the alpha couple. The submissive instinct finds a new route-hotwife to bull, cuck to hot wife and an equilibirum emerges. Scary emotions Rally are the norm and healthy. You realise the import of such a change. Its not something that longer term is a game, its a chosen lifestyle. You would be crazy not to have doubts, not to ponder this carefully. So much depends on emotional intelligence, hers, the bulls and your own. This is so different to social norm living from the past. As the Cat Steven’s song went, ‘take your time, think a lot, think of everything you’ve got, you will still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.’ Be clear about the dreams then.

. . . it really hit me hard. When she relates to someone else intimately this way, she is looking for something that she is not getting from me. Saying that it is because he has a bigger cock is probably a rationalization to some degree or another.

She is bringing in a third hoping to get what she wants/needs without breaking up our pairing, but again as Jezz points out, “So much depends on emotional intelligence . . .”

I guess all three of us have to adjust to being in a trio instead of a duet with nothing carved in stone and sex is only part of it, which can be exciting and scary for everyone, . . . but I’m the one getting more cooking, cleaning, and laundry to do! haha

It is totally normal as you evolve as a cuck to feel very submissive and and feel the transfer of power to the bull and his cock. As a cuck i have realized the relative worthlessness of my dick and why my wife needed to get sexuql satisfaction from others. We totally worship our wives and understand the thrill and joy her bulls cock brings to her pussy and body. We identify with our wifes pleasure, thats why we are cucked. It is only natural to feel the attraction , love, and obedience she does to her bulls cock. Obviously that is why it attracts you, but not the same way it attracts her. His cock represents all pleasure you could not properly give her. To you it represents the ultimately superior sex organ. Since we don’t fuck our wives anymore, it replaces her pussy as the most exciting and powerful sexual object in bed. It reminds us why we are cucks and how important it is to the wife. Totally true that the role no longer about cock performance and more about submission and their pleasure. Thats why prepping and cleaning are so important.