Where to start?

always trepidation for many at outset. much also depends whom we interact with for our first entry to this lifestyle.
its not for all and has drawbacks or rather risks as well as thrills and benefits.
its best to read up on this .this site has a few good articles . ask questions and. do not rush things. ideally any bull we manage to find( not as easy. as you think) should be near but not on doorstep. fit in with our aspirations and goals.
always have a chats and drinks well before any meets . bear in mind nearly all females do Not want hubby present for that important fist coupling ( often hubby gets a bit put out at that)
soem also decide to try out things at a long weekend or vacation away .thus. any emotional or other issues afterwards can be talked through and if we decide it was a mistake? then we leave it behind. if it works out as intended? then one can arrange long term bull on a better set up, do enjoy .

Asking here is a good first step.
Other sites also have good discussions. Read but with a large grain of salt. You will find lots of opinions opinions, often contradictory. Pick what fits your taste. Education is your best friend.

Realize fantasy and reality are not the same but can have overlap and spice each other.

So….
Priorities: health,family, relationship with hubby, income, sex.

If you have not been asked to be in playboy put some of your ego on the shelf. Someone will say no. But many men will jump at an easy screw. Or do you want affairs with some meaning? You get to pick. But in the era of me too you may have to make an overt move or outright proposition.

I personally recommend propositioning a man you find attractive and if he is interested ask to see and verify a recent STD panel. Show me the web page with the report. Then have an affair.

Writing on the phone is a PIA so ask specific questions if you are still on.

P.s. In propositioning a man be direct. We can be dense.

Im new to the idea of cockold marriage as well. My hubby just brought this up to me last night and told me read about it and think. We have a very active sex life but somethings always been missing, hes always been the submissive type and loves to be humiliated. Within the past year he has asked me to talk about my past sexual partners and our intercourse. Now he has decided he wants to watch it happen, how do we go about this? Baby steps or dive right in?

They way we started was by posting an add on an adult site and selected 2 of the guys that replied. Chatted with them for about a month before meeting in person.

We were not sure if that first meeting we were going to go all the way or just meet for a drink it was going to depend on how comfortable we felt, so we set up to meet at the bar of a nice hotel and we booked a room for the night just in case things went well preventing an awkward moment.

We did not tell him we had a room just told him we wanted to meet for a drink.

Things went very well and we invited him yo to the room for our first mfm experience